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Parenthood is often described as a roller coaster ride, filled with ups, downs, and unexpected turns. For many fathers, this journey involves a continual process of learning, growth, and adaptation. In this week’s Dads with Daughters podcast, we spoke with Thomas Batchelor, an operations and maintenance electrician for Shell Energy Australia and the father of two sons. The conversation touched on various aspects of fatherhood, from the initial challenges to the changing gender roles and the importance of self-care and support.
The Long Marathon: Early Challenges in Fatherhood
When Thomas Batchelor first discovered he was going to be a father, he approached the situation with confidence. However, reality quickly set in. “I thought I’d have it all under control,” Batchelor reflected. “But it was far from the truth.” Like many new parents, Thomas faced significant hurdles, including a newborn who had difficulty sleeping. The initial months were a humbling experience that forced him to adjust his expectations and learn on the go.
“I learned pretty quickly that it’s not a sprint. It’s going to be a marathon-type process,” Batchelor said. “Settle in because the life that you knew before has changed, and you have to adjust to the new life that you’ve got now.”
This early period was characterized by significant personal growth, teaching Batchelor to look inward and adopt a more grounded approach in both his personal life and in fatherhood.
Shifting Gender Roles and the Importance of Teamwork
Batchelor highlighted how traditional gender roles have shifted in contemporary parenting. He took a year off work to stay at home and support his wife’s career aspirations, showcasing the importance of teamwork in managing family responsibilities. Initially, he struggled to comprehend the “mental load” that his wife carried daily. This refers to the myriad of small, yet significant, tasks that ensure a household runs smoothly.
“About 2 or 3 months in, I thought I was doing a great job, but my wife said I needed to start thinking for myself now,” Batchelor explained. It was a steep learning curve that took almost a year to fully grasp.
Understanding and acknowledging these unseen aspects of parental responsibility not only strengthened his relationship with his wife but also allowed him to contribute more effectively at home.
Building a Support Network
One of Batchelor’s key points was the importance of seeking and having a support network. Fatherhood can be a lonely journey, often described as the “lone wolf syndrome.” He strongly believes that vulnerability and asking for help are crucial for personal well-being. Batchelor participated in a retreat called the Good Blokes Society, which acted as an “adult rite of passage” and enabled him to share his struggles with like-minded men.
“Without that, that was the start of my journey. And then I sat with it, and it was really raw and tough for me to do, but I left there and continued to gain momentum.”
His experience illustrates that community and mutual support are essential in navigating the complexities of fatherhood.
Self-Care and Sustainable Fatherhood
Adopting an effective self-care routine emerged as another critical piece of Batchelor’s journey. From regular exercise and a balanced diet to seeking professional psychological help, Batchelor emphasizes that self-care enables him to be a better father.
“I’ve got to make sure that I’m getting to bed at a decent time, eating a pretty good diet, exercising regularly, and speaking to a psychologist,” he said. “If I do that, then I feel like I’m in the place where I need to be.”
By managing his well-being, Batchelor ensures that he can fully engage with and support his family.
Thomas Batchelor’s story is a resonant example of modern fatherhood’s challenges and triumphs. His journey offers essential insights into the importance of adaptability, shifting gender roles, and self-care. Batchelor underscores that vulnerability and a strong support network are indispensable elements for any father striving to be the best they can be. As society continues to evolve, his experiences will undoubtedly inspire other dads to navigate their unique journeys with resilience and empathy.
For more on Thomas Batchelor’s journey and other inspiring stories, tune into the Dads with Daughters podcast. Fathers seeking support can also explore resources offered by Fathering Together.
TRANSCRIPT
Christopher Lewis [00:00:05]:
Welcome to dads with daughters. In this show, we spotlight dads, resources, and more to help you be the best dad you can be.
Christopher Lewis [00:00:16]:
Welcome back to the Dads with Daughters podcast, where we bring you guests to be active participants in your daughter’s lives, raising them to be strong, independent women. Every week. I love being able to talk to you, to walk with you, to be here in solidarity, together, talking about fatherhood, working through the journey that we’re both on in raising our kids. And I say it’s a journey because it truly is a journey. It is a journey that each of us goes on every day and we are going to be learning something every day, learning something about ourselves, learning something about the, the person that we are, the person that we’re becoming, but also learning about our kids, what they’re becoming. And we then have to pivot. We have to adjust. We have to learn to be able to be the best dads that we wanna be.
Christopher Lewis [00:01:06]:
And that’s important. And that’s why this podcast exists. This podcast exists to be able to be that resource for you, to help you along that journey. And I’ll be honest, as I’ve gone through this with you, I’ve learned so much from all of you, but I’ve also learned so much from all the guests that we’ve had on the show. And that’s why every week I love being able to bring you different guests, different dads that have had different experiences, that can share those experiences with you so that you can learn, you can grow, and you can be able to take things from their own experience, put it into your own toolbox, and help you along the way. This week, we’ve got another great guest with us. Thomas Batchelor is with us. And Thomas is a operations and maintenance electrician for Shell Energy Australia, but he’s also, more importantly, a father of 2.
Christopher Lewis [00:01:55]:
We’re going to be talking about his own journey in being a father to his sons, but also some of the things that he went through in this journey to be able to be present, be engaged, and be there for his sons as they were growing and also some of the things that he learned along the way. So I’m really excited to have him here and for him to share his journey with you. Thomas, thanks so much for being here today.
Thomas Batchelor [00:02:20]:
Thanks, Chris. Thanks for having me.
Christopher Lewis [00:02:21]:
It is my pleasure. I love being able to talk to different dads with different experiences. And first 1st and foremost, one of the things that I love being able to do in our conversations is turn the clock back in time and you’ve got 2 sons. So I want to go all the way back. Go back to that first moment when you found out that you were going to be a father to a son. What was going through your head?
Thomas Batchelor [00:02:40]:
I thought I’d have it all under control. I thought, yeah, I’ve got my head around this and my kid will fit into my life, but it was far from the truth. And I learned pretty quickly that it’s not a sprint. It’s going to be a marathon type process and settle in because the life that you knew before has changed and you have to adjust to the new life that you’ve got now. And I think I did struggle with that.
Christopher Lewis [00:03:04]:
So talk to me a little bit about that because as you said, it’s not a sprint, it’s a marathon and you have to kind of learn along the way. And you’ve got 2 sons now, so there’s definite learning that goes on there from child 1 to child 2. So So what were some of the first things that you really had to learn for yourself that really helped you to start that journey, but also to be able to transcend those first moments of being, let’s say, a little bit trepidatious, a little bit concerned, and be able to get into the groove of fatherhood for yourself.
Thomas Batchelor [00:03:37]:
Yeah. I think going into it, I probably thought I had a sense of arrogance that I was I was across it all, and I wasn’t gonna be any different to any of the other parents who were, you know, I’m gonna do it on my terms. And that didn’t happen. We had a child who didn’t wanna sleep. He was a challenging baby. Didn’t wanna sleep. It was a real challenge, and it’s been very humbling. And I’d say that the man I’ve become today and continue to keep growing is because of the challenges of having, I think, a difficult child. I think it’s really helped me to just become more grounded and look more inwardly. And I’ve had such growth because of the challenges. I’m happy for that.
Christopher Lewis [00:04:14]:
You know, all of us go through challenges in different ways. Some of it goes into the type of child that you have and the the things that they push you into, but then there are challenges at times when internally you have to fight your own demons of the way that you were raised into figuring out the way that you wanna raise your own children. So each of us fights those pressures and that connection and that dichotomy that happens when you become a parent. So talk to me about that challenge for yourself and what you had to do to to be able to transcend and move beyond the initial challenge. And let’s say it is the nonsleeping. I remember that. I had a child just like that. You, especially after, you know, 6 months, a year of that happening, you’re walking around like a zombie and you you don’t know which end is up and it impacts your relationships.
Christopher Lewis [00:05:03]:
It impacts everything. So talk to me about going through that, but also transcending that to be able to push through it, but to be able to also learn from it to help you to be the dad that you wanted to be now.
Thomas Batchelor [00:05:16]:
So I sort of just got my head down really. I thought to myself, if I can try and do as much as I can so I would try and do as much as I could to try and support my wife with the wake ups so she could have a better day. I had Oscar at home as my oldest boy. And I just continued to keep putting my head down. But then I was also trying to mesh in this social life as well. So I thought I could still go out with my mates. I thought I could still go and do all these things that I wanted to do, but still be able to be this supportive husband and the father that I wanted to be and I couldn’t do it all. And that became quite an overwhelming thing and I had to really I’m a people pleaser and I had to really make sure that I now I probably only just got to the grips in the last couple of years that, you know, you have to say no to things and you have to make sacrifices because you have to get your priorities straight.
Thomas Batchelor [00:06:06]:
And I did bottom out, I’d say about 3 years ago. So I just ran out of steam really and the kids would have never have known. I was just doing what I had to do to get through but I wasn’t enjoying the process. I wasn’t present. I was making sure that I was doing the things I had to do as a father, but I wasn’t enjoying it. It just wasn’t an enjoyable experience. And I bottomed out, and I started becoming involved in groups of of particularly men who I would who I went away with. It was almost like an adult rite of passage.
Thomas Batchelor [00:06:36]:
I would go away and I’ll speak about some of the challenges, obviously, throughout the course of my life and then obviously how it’s impacting me as a father now and just really unpacking that. Just having more people to talk to, you know, more people to speak to who are also going through different struggles and just getting it out there. And that really helped me to put things into perspective and and know that I’m not alone. I don’t know if you’ve heard the term the lone wolf syndrome. So that was something I idea. I just got my head down and I would go to the beach at 5 AM in the morning in winter and and run on the beach. I really hammered exercise to a point where it was unhealthy. And just to try and feel something, to try and, you know, get up before the kids got up.
Thomas Batchelor [00:07:16]:
I just burnt out. I just couldn’t do anymore. And I feel like there’s just been different phases of my life where I’ve had to lean into certain things by slowing things down and then speeding things up at time to try and get to where I need to be. And I feel like I’m really there now. I’m in a really good spot now. I’m actually starting to enjoy my time with my boys. And I’m really grateful for that because, I mean, I don’t know how long I could have gone on for. I mean, I didn’t wanna get to when the kids were 10, 11, 12 and go far out the whole time.
Thomas Batchelor [00:07:44]:
I’ve just been a servant, you know, and I haven’t enjoyed the process. This is more it’s about being a parent. So I’m grateful for where I am now. And it’s it’s a lot of hard work, but grateful for where I am now. So
Christopher Lewis [00:07:55]:
let’s rewind a little bit because this process that you went through and this journey that you were on, it sounds like a roller coaster in regards to the highs and the lows and what you were pushing yourself to try to accomplish, but you weren’t accomplishing. So you’ve gotten to a point now where you feel like you’re in a good spot, but you had to have gone through some healing in some aspect. You had to have gone through some aspect to challenge yourself, to push you in a different direction. What did you have to do to be able to get off of that roller coaster? What did you have to do to be able to get on this new path that you were on? Because there are going to be dads that are listening right now that are on that roller coaster. They hear they heard what you just said and said, I feel that way right now, but I don’t know how to get off. I don’t know how to start on this different journey.
Thomas Batchelor [00:08:47]:
I think just submitting to where you’re at and then asking for help. I think asking for help is the biggest thing. So getting the right people around you who can support you. And if that’s not your close circle of friends because you’re not there yet, I wasn’t there yet. So you think about the people that you went to school with, the people that you work with, your family, you might not feel comfortable going to these people. And I do think that comes back to an upbringing thing and I raise my kids now to speak about their emotions and if they’re feeling a certain way we really unpack it. I don’t feel that was ever there for me as a child. So I feel like my child’s emotional intelligence was actually better or as good as mine as a person who was in their mid thirties.
Thomas Batchelor [00:09:30]:
My boy at the time was 5, and his emotional intelligence is is really good. He can tell me how he’s he’s feeling, and, I mean, I couldn’t do that as an adult. So I think you have to put your ego aside. You have to really be vulnerable. Vulnerable is probably the biggest word. And then you have to lean into there’s plenty of support groups out there. So I went on a retreat with a guy called Mike Dyson, and he ran a retreat called the Good Blokes Retreat. So it was a bunch of like minded men, and we went away for a weekend.
Thomas Batchelor [00:09:58]:
It was all facilitated, catered for. It was in a beautiful part of Western Australia down the south region, and it was winter, and we just had real conversations. So I just get tingles running through my body now speaking about it because without that, that was the start of my journey. And then I sat with it, and it was really raw and it was tough for me to do, but I left there and I’m like, you know what? It just continued to gain momentum. And from that point on then I leant into other circles. So I spoke to my work colleagues. I spoke to my family. I spoke to the guys I went to school with and played sport with.
Thomas Batchelor [00:10:35]:
And then from that point on it was all out there and I basically said I can’t and don’t want to do this all on my own. You know, I want to be able to have the support of my friends and family to enjoy this process as much as possible. And the more that I lean into vulnerability, the more I look at my wife and my kids and feel that connection and that love because it works. It simply works. Yes. I don’t know really what more to add to that, but it’s been a journey and I’m happy that I’m here now.
Christopher Lewis [00:11:03]:
Now you and I were connected through Sarah McConachay, who Sarah wrote a book that you were a part of, that you contributed a chapter to. And in that chapter, you talk about a number of the things that you’ve already talked about already. And I think one of the things that I found really interesting was you talked a little bit about the fact that you mentioned in what you wrote that following instructions and helping out wasn’t enough to handle the mental load at home. Can you elaborate on what you meant by the mental load and how you came to understand its impact on you and on your family dynamics?
Thomas Batchelor [00:11:42]:
Yeah. So I’d probably just take it back a little bit. During probably my lowest time, it was sort of when COVID hit. My wife was really busy at work and she’s always thinking 2 steps ahead. You know, what’s for dinner tonight? What’s for dinner tomorrow night? Putting on washing. Just constantly thinking, kids’ birthday parties. There’s constantly things that I feel like in my relationship that the mom and the working mom has to think about so many more things. I don’t know whether it’s a male default setting because evolution has brought us to this point.
Thomas Batchelor [00:12:11]:
I do think that men are probably having to do more outside of their comfort zone now than ever, and maybe that’s an to sit with our evolution for a little bit so our kids can see it, and then we can then take on some of that more of that mental load of all the things that the women talk about. So COVID came along. It was really tough for me, but my wife obviously continued to work and continued to do the home stuff. And I would do the home stuff. Don’t get me wrong. I would I would help out and do as much as I could. After COVID, we said, right. We need we need to sort of slow things down here.
Thomas Batchelor [00:12:41]:
So my wife took a year off of study break. She went back and and studied her master’s. And then she said, look, I’m going to start applying for jobs. And if I land a job as a in an executive position, then, you know, maybe I’ll wind back at work and I’ll have the year off to adjust. And then from that point on, we’ll assess it. And I felt like I was a lot more comfortable being at home with the pace of home than sort of going to work and then having to adjust back to the pace of home. So I said, alright. So my wife ended up landing this position at at a at her work or she she applied for this position and got it.
Thomas Batchelor [00:13:18]:
And then I asked my work if I could have 12 months off work, and and they said yes, which was which was amazing. And then it was a steep learning curve. So this is where the mental load comes in. So the 1st 2 or 3 months, I remember thinking I was going along okay. And I went out for dinner with my wife about 2 or 3 months in. I said, look, how am I going? And she sort of looked at me and she was a bit reluctant to give me an answer. And I sort of said, what do you mean? She said, look, I just need you to start thinking for yourself now. You need to start thinking about what needs to be done versus what I tell you that needs to be done.
Thomas Batchelor [00:13:51]:
And so obviously it was a bit of a shock, but looking back now, she was correct. And it really took the full year, I think by about the 9 month mark, where I was like really gaining some steam then. I was thinking about, again, it was not for dinner tonight but for the next night, putting a load of washing on, making sure that things are away, just small things. So that’s when I think I really became a benefit at home is when I could actually start to remove some of the mental load that my wife had. And I do think there’s a lot of other women out there who have similar experiences. But it’s I don’t think it’s a I didn’t do it on purpose, but I’m a base now compared to where I was a year ago in regards to how I go about things at home.
Christopher Lewis [00:14:36]:
So as you think back to that and you think at the future, so you were talking about gender roles and how those changed in that period of time for you and your family. So how have gender roles and expectations evolved for you in your parenting? And how did you and your wife navigate them beyond that period? And how do you navigate them now? And what advice would you give to other families that are trying to find that balance?
Thomas Batchelor [00:15:01]:
I’ve always been a big supporter of my wife. So I’ve been with my partner since I was 16. We were both going to school together, and I’ve always been a big supporter of her. And she’s very smart, and I’ve always thought that some of my life’s work would be really supporting her in in being the best that she can be. I mean, I really thrive in seeing people that I love around me do well in life. I celebrate other people’s victories, and my wife’s one of them. So I think going into it, I was probably going into it with a bit of, I’ll just I’m going to support my wife, but I really didn’t think about all of the things that had to be done at at home and it was a challenge. And I’d say you just have to keep communicating with your partner and just gotta keep communicating and making sure that you’re on the same page and you’re both pulling in the same direction.
Thomas Batchelor [00:15:48]:
And the more, like anything with any job or any type of task, the more that you do it, the better that you become at it. And then the more that you can then focus on other things that you want to in life.
Christopher Lewis [00:15:58]:
In raising 2 sons, especially now in what you’ve learned yourself about gender roles, about the changing gender roles in family dynamics right now, how does that adjust the way that you think as a father? How does that adjust the way that you parent your sons as they grow into a world that will be even more different as they get into adulthood?
Thomas Batchelor [00:16:24]:
I’ve never really thought about the stereotypes as such that man does this, woman does that. I’ve never been that type of person. I think it’ll be great to see in the future my boys of how they probably view it. It will be interesting. I think we’re probably at this biggest change in a gender equality or gender stereotype roles more than ever. I do think that it will become the norm, I think, over the next 10, 20, 30 years. I think the numbers are still low. I think the numbers are still very low of men that stay stay home, but it is gaining traction.
Thomas Batchelor [00:16:57]:
But it’s a hard job at home. It is a challenging job, but I think it’s going to be great to see that, yeah, mom and dad are both capable of doing whatever they want in life.
Christopher Lewis [00:17:05]:
Now you mentioned the fact that you had an employer that was supportive of this journey that you went on to be able to be engaged at home and also support your partner in the new endeavors that she was endeavoring on. And not every business has done that or will do that. How important do you think it is for workplace policies and support systems to be put into place for families, for fathers, for parents in general to allow for them to have that work life balance that you talked about?
Thomas Batchelor [00:17:42]:
Very important. That year off really helped me to adjust. I think if I did it in a part time capacity, I think it would have been a real struggle for me. I think I need that year off to be able to, fully commit to the role, and then now I’ve adjusted back to 2 days a week. But, I mean, I was there for 12 years before I went on that year. So I’ve got a a wealth of knowledge, at the power station where I work, and I think it would be not wise to let a lot of that knowledge go. I mean, I feel like I fit really well in with my team and I’m a good team player. I’ll help as much as I can where I can, but I do feel like leading into that year, I was having quite a lot of personal leave in regards to this appointment, that appointment.
Thomas Batchelor [00:18:24]:
And so now I’m back 2 days a week, work Monday Tuesday, and then a lot of those appointments are scheduled for Wednesday, Thursday, Friday. So I think for the employer, I think it’s actually a really good idea because now I’m not impacting the business as much with some of the commitments that I have to with my kids. And I do feel like women probably get a roar end of the deal when it comes to this part time type scenario. My wife tried to work a part time, but it’s it’s full time work. I mean, they’re having to jam a full time job into a part time capacity. I think we’ve got a long way to go there in regards to the working mum. And I still feel like there’s probably with the men, it seems more attractive that a man would stay home and and have the time off, whether I think the women probably get held back a little bit more. I I do think it’s we have to do more to support, I think, working mums in the workplace who work in a part time capacity.
Thomas Batchelor [00:19:16]:
So I feel like a lot of the stories out there out here is that the moms are having to do a full time load in a part time case, which is I don’t think is fair.
Christopher Lewis [00:19:24]:
Now a number of the things that you talked about really revolve around that you’ve gotten to a point where you’ve identified for yourself the things that you need to be able to do to take care of yourself, but also your family. So I saw this in the piece that you wrote, but also in what you’ve said that there is a importance that you’ve placed on self care and communication that seems to be following you now and into the future. Could you share an example for me of how you’ve incorporated the self care now for yourself in this next phase of your journey of fatherhood and how you hope that that will help you to be able to be an even better father in the future?
Thomas Batchelor [00:20:05]:
Again, just getting my priorities straight. So making sure that I’m not saying yes to things that aren’t serving me. I don’t go out as much as I like to go out for a beer now and again, but I don’t push it. So I’m not the guy who who comes home. I haven’t got anything against people who want to come home late or they can do these things. If they can fit it all in, they can do it. I just can’t do it. So I’ve got to make sure that I’m getting to bed at a decent time.
Thomas Batchelor [00:20:28]:
I’m eating a pretty good diet. I’m exercising regularly. I’m speaking to a psychologist. Just reaching out. I mean, just doing things. I mean, I’m helping in my community. I’ll say no to certain things, but I’ll say yes to other things, you know, other things that align with my values. And I mean, my priority is my family.
Thomas Batchelor [00:20:47]:
And if anything outside of that impact my role as a dad at home, then I have to say, I still struggle to say no. I’m a person that does like to please and does like to say yes. So I’ve got to keep working at that. And if I do that, then I feel like I’m in the place where I need to be.
Christopher Lewis [00:21:03]:
Now I always finish our interviews with what I like to call our fatherhood 5, where I ask you 5 more questions to delve deeper into you as a dad. Are you ready?
Thomas Batchelor [00:21:10]:
Yep. Ready.
Christopher Lewis [00:21:10]:
In one word, what is fatherhood?
Thomas Batchelor [00:21:12]:
Growth.
Christopher Lewis [00:21:13]:
Now when was the time that you felt like you finally succeeded at being a father?
Thomas Batchelor [00:21:18]:
When I started getting full night sleeps.
Christopher Lewis [00:21:21]:
I remember those times. Now, if I was to talk to your boys, how would they describe you as a dad?
Thomas Batchelor [00:21:26]:
I would like to say that they think I’m funny, that I’m active, that I’m very supportive of their journey, that they feel safe. I do feel the love and affection from my boys. So I’d like to think that they would think I’m doing a okay job.
Christopher Lewis [00:21:41]:
10 years from now, what do you want them to say?
Thomas Batchelor [00:21:43]:
I want them to be able to come to me if they have something going on in their life and say, dad, I need help. And if it’s not from me, it has to be from another good man. I do feel like my role as a father is to shepherd them through life and to try and open up as many doors as I can. And if some of those doors they don’t want to explore, that’s fine. But I really do want to feel like that they can, when they have those bumps along their journey, that they can either speak to me or men like me.
Christopher Lewis [00:22:12]:
Now who inspires you to be a better dad?
Thomas Batchelor [00:22:14]:
Other dads. I say just other dads. Other dads who are going through the same things that I’m going through. I walk through the school grounds and I see the way that dads interact with their kids and that inspires me. I really like seeing that.
Christopher Lewis [00:22:26]:
Now you’ve given a lot of pieces of advice today, things for people to definitely consider and think about and see how they can incorporate that into their lives. As we finish up today, what’s one piece of advice you’d want to give to every dad?
Thomas Batchelor [00:22:38]:
Just be vulnerable. Speak about the challenges. Just try and be vulnerable. And that’s all I can really say. Just be vulnerable. If you can be vulnerable and open and honest about where you’re at, then I think most things will flow there.
Christopher Lewis [00:22:51]:
Now, Thomas, I mentioned that you are a part of Sarah McConachie’s book. We’ll put a link in the notes today so people can read your story and check that out. If people want to find out any more about you, is there a best place for them to go?
Thomas Batchelor [00:23:02]:
I suppose you could go to LinkedIn or I have got a Facebook account. I’m quite new to all this, so I’ve enjoyed it. So I don’t really have anything else. I’d say probably just reach out to me, and if you want any more of my journey or any of the support groups or just to chat, then I’m always welcome to have a chat with someone who’s struggling or just needs a ear to listen.
Christopher Lewis [00:23:24]:
Well, Thomas, I just want to say thank you. Thank you for sharing your journey, the highs and the lows, and I truly wish you all the best.
Thomas Batchelor [00:23:31]:
Thanks, Chris. I appreciate it.
Christopher Lewis [00:23:32]:
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Christopher Lewis [00:24:31]:
We’re all in the same boat, and it’s full of tiny screaming passengers. We spend the time, We give the lessons. We make the meals. We buy them presents and bring your a game. Because those kids are growing fast. The time goes by just like a dynamite blast. The world. Choose them. Be the best dad you can be. You’re the best dad you can be.