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Insights on Fatherhood, Loneliness, and Parenting 8 Children from JP DeGance of Communio

Fatherhood is a unique journey that provides an opportunity to shape the lives of our daughters. In a recent episode of the Dads with Daughters podcast, JP DeGance, the president of Communio, shared valuable insights on fatherhood, relationships, loneliness, and the importance of community in raising daughters to be strong and independent women.

Impactful Moments of Fatherhood

In the podcast, DeGance shared his experience as a father to eight children, highlighting the significant impact of fatherhood on his life. He emphasized how his relationship with his daughters has shaped his perspective on parenting. He touched upon the realization of a different connection and relationship with his daughters compared to his sons.

Understanding the Unique Bonds

DeGance discussed the importance of forming unique relationships with each of his children despite their different personalities and age ranges. He highlighted the significance of spending quality time with each child individually and fostering connections that are tailored to their individual needs and interests. This approach emphasizes the importance of understanding and supporting each child in a personalized manner.

Challenges of Raising Daughters

The discussion delved into the challenges of raising daughters in the modern world, particularly in terms of relationships, healthy partnerships, and the impact of societal changes on their well-being. DeGance shed light on the implications of the current cultural trends on daughters’ perceptions of relationships and the importance of guiding them to discern healthy and meaningful connections.

Insights on Loneliness and Community

DeGance’s organization, Communio, has conducted extensive research on loneliness, uncovering concerning trends in societal well-being. The study revealed alarming insights about the epidemic of loneliness and its impact across different demographic groups. Particularly, the podcast emphasized the importance of community and mentorship among men, highlighting the profound impact of having connections outside the family unit to combat loneliness and reinforce purpose in life.

Cultivating Meaningful Relationships

One of the key takeaways from DeGance’s insights was the emphasis on cultivating healthy, purpose-driven relationships within the family and the broader community. He stressed the significance of modeling a parent-centered home rather than a child-centered one, highlighting the role of the marriage relationship as the foundation for trust and social trust in children.

Guiding Fathers to Be Present

DeGance shared invaluable advice for fathers, encouraging them to live life with their children and actively engage in their lives. This guidance underscored the importance of being present and actively involved in children’s lives, especially during their formative years.

In conclusion, JP DeGance’s insights provide a comprehensive understanding of the impact of fatherhood, relationships, and community in raising strong daughters. His perspectives on building unique connections with each child, navigating the challenges of parenting, and the significance of community involvement offer valuable lessons for fathers striving to raise empowered and resilient daughters.

As fathers, our role in shaping the lives of our daughters extends beyond mere presence. It encompasses creating a supportive and purpose-driven environment, fostering meaningful connections, and nurturing strong, independent women. Through prioritizing father-daughter relationships, active involvement, and community engagement, we can contribute to the holistic development of our daughters and empower them to navigate the complexities of the modern world with confidence and resilience.

By embracing the insights shared by JP DeGance, fathers worldwide can deepen their understanding of their pivotal role in raising strong, empowered daughters and actively contribute to their daughters’ journey toward a fulfilling and purposeful life.

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TRANSCRIPT

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:05]:

Welcome to Dads With Daughters. In this show, we spotlight dads, resources, and more to help you be the best dad you can be.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:16]:

Welcome back to the Dads with Daughters podcast, where we bring you guests to be active participants in your daughters’ lives, raising them to be strong, independent women. Docs. Really excited to be back with you again this week. Every week, I love sitting down with you and being able to talk to you about this journey that we’re all on called fatherhood. And it is a unique journey in many ways, but it doesn’t have to be. There are so many ways in which we can learn and grow from the offered from the people that are around us, from other fathers, and this show is all about connecting you with other people’s experiences to be able to help you to be the father that you wanna be and to help you to raise those strong independent women the that you have in your homes. Every week, I love bringing you different guests, different dads, and different other individuals with resources that can help you to do just that. And this week, we got another great guest with us.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:12]:

JP DeGance is with us today, and JP is the president of Communio. He is also the founder and president. I should say, let me step back. JP DeGance is with us today, and JP is the president and founder of Communio. And we’re gonna talk more about the organization and some of the things that they’ve been finding inside, like, a recent study that just came out about loneliness. And we’re also gonna be talking about the fact that he’s a father of 8. And I was talking to him before we started today and said that it just kinda blows my mind because I think 2 is enough for me, but 8 is a whole new game. So I’m excited to have him on. JP, thanks so much for being here.

JP DeGance [00:01:52]:

Hey, Christopher. Thank you for having me. It’s great to be here with you. Thank you so much.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:57]:

It is my pleasure having you here today. I love that we’re able to talk about fatherhood and Communio. I guess, 1st and foremost, I wanna turn the clock back in time. I love being able to have this power when when I talk to people and being able to turn the clock back. And I know you’ve got 8 kids. I’d like to go back to that 1st moment. That first moment that you found out that you were going to be a father to a daughter, what was going through your head?

JP DeGance [00:02:20]:

You know, for us, it was number 3. And I’ll tell you. It was funny. I told my wife brings this up to me all the time. She says, I see, oh, I’m gonna treat, you know, my kids the same. I’m gonna, you know, my son’s daughter’s gonna be the same. And then, I had my daughter, and I realized, we have a different connection, a different relationship. And I love my girls.

JP DeGance [00:02:42]:

I’ve I’ve we’re we’re all tied up. Chris for four boys and four girls. It’s about as evenly distributed as you can. But being able to bond with my daughters and having daughters, I’m confident, makes me a better a better man. It causes me to want to be more in comparison to my sons, who I’ll rough up. I relate a bit differently to my daughters, and it’s been beautiful, not great. And my wife has called me out on it quite a number of times that you don’t really treat them the same. Later on, I got a quote from my father That I love. He’s like, you treat all of your children equally.

JP DeGance [00:03:18]:

You don’t treat them the same. And I think that there’s a lot of a lot of wisdom in that.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:03:23]:

I love that. Now a lot of dads that I talk to I talked to a lot of dads over the years, and a lot of dads say to me that having that daughter in their life. Is not only an amazing thing, but it also brings some fear with it as well. And I guess for you, As you look at the fact that you have eight kids four girls and four boys, what has been your biggest fear in raising daughters?

JP DeGance [00:03:47]:

Nobles. Because of my work, and you mentioned some research that we’ve been doing, I run an org and a ministry that really seeks to equip churches to champion and encourage healthy relationships, marriage, fatherhood, and healthy fatherhood. And as I’ve gotten into the data, you can’t help but understand That there is a retreat from marriage that’s occurring that’s gonna affect our sons and daughters, and that means something, especially for our daughters and how they grow and Dom. And and how they discern healthy relationships. I think the culture has cheapened relationships and meaningful relationships. And so coming alongside my daughters to help form them is so that they can know what the healthy guy looks like and how to avoid problematic relationships and toxic relationships, and then form friend groups, right? That reinforces that. Right? My mom used to say, you know, you are. I’m sure I’m not the only one whose mom said this. Right? You are who your friends are, who you associate with.

JP DeGance [00:04:51]:

You often reflect in terms of your personality and who you are. So those are just some of those things that, you know, recognizing. You know, the reality is is even at Conley, and you think about college, no, today’s college is now 60% women, 40% men, and in the last, most recent most recent class. And what that actually mathematically means as a dad is it’s gonna be actually harder mathematically for our daughters to find a guy who is of historically speaking woman marries someone of the same academic attainment level. And that means, if her daughters pursue college, it’ll become harder to identify someone just because it just becomes a math problem. These are just some of the things I think about.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:30]:

Now with eight kids, I know that even with twoo kids, each child is very different. I’m sure that with eight kids, you’ve got many different personalities and many different perspectives. And as you father 8 children, you have to build those unique relationships with each one of those kids in different ways. How do you do that, and how do you balance being able to build those unique relationships with each of your children, especially based on the age range that we’re talking about?

JP DeGance [00:06:04]:

We spend a lot of time together, a lot of our social time as a family. And the kids enjoy being around each other. These kids we, we fight. The kids fight. Right? The kids argue, and that’s all normal. But I will say our 18-year-old, our 17-year-old, and our 15-year-old are strange in that they don’t complain when it’s family time and we’re Doing something social and fun. That said, it’s it you’re absolutely right. It’s critical to find that time where you can spend time together individually.

JP DeGance [00:06:34]:

A child. So I do a number of things. I travel for work, not infrequently, and so I try to bring one of my kids with me on a work trip Periodically so that there it’s just with dad. If I’m going out, I have to go to Montana periodically, and that’s a fun place to go and drive around and see the natural wonder of that heart of the country, and I’ll do that. I’ve I’ve had to go on trips to Denver. I’ll take one child. And one of the things that we’ll do is try to do different types of rites of passage kind of experiences with our with a kid with our children when they hit a certain age, particularly, like, right before puberty, you know, they go on a trip. With me.

JP DeGance [00:07:10]:

It’s a son who goes with me, and the daughter goes with mom. And we make a trip away, and we do a bit of the bird and the bees, conversations and, you know, how life is gonna be changing and really try to lay the groundwork there. Then when they graduate high school, we’ve done this once Now. We’ll be doing it again this summer. We’ve taken our oldest. We’ve just selected that point to be just a trip with an experience that we just do with a high school graduate and celebrate that moment, let them know how important that moment was and their achievement and and and, obviously, in our as a family of 8, really appreciate that time when it’s just me and them Or me and my wife and my child. And so those are some of the ways. And then you, you know, every child, you’re absolutely right.

JP DeGance [00:07:57]:

Every child is different. Right? They need different things. Okay. I’ve grown to notice that my sons and I are studying this area; they want to know If they’re competent, they wanna know. If I think that they’re competent, they’re they’re they’re effective. They can do they can do things. And so frequently, that’s part of how I reinforce the My sons and my daughters so frequently wanna know if, and they range again from age 4 to age 15. They wanna know if they are actually beautiful. Are they being reinforced? I think they’re certainly reinforcing your self-image and, Letting her know that Dad knows that they’re they’re a beautiful young lady, beautiful inside and out, and that’s important in a way.

JP DeGance [00:08:39]:

They react differently, my sons and daughters, on these things, and I’ve seen that as really important for my daughters.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:08:45]:

We talked about fears and how raising kids can be smooth sailing. It can also be challenging at times. What’s been the hardest part for you In being a father to a daughter?

JP DeGance [00:08:57]:

Yeah. The hardest part of being a father to a daughter. My kids have struggled with dyslexia, sons and daughters. And realized that the traditional school model for us wasn’t wasn’t working for my daughters. What it wasn’t working for my sons. I ended up having a series of conversations with a businessman that I thought very highly of, and he helped me open my eyes to thinking differently about education, particularly educating my daughters. Right? In the end, it led us to decide to alter what we were doing. We ended up Moving into a homeschool model where we could allocate capital for the kind of tutoring they needed and the kind of pace in the areas they needed.

JP DeGance [00:09:40]:

And that’s been a really good thing. I think mom is really good at handling things like ways to dress and what have you. And so I don’t have to do much of that. My wife is all over the stuff, and the and the girls, That’s been a good thing for us, and the girls, I think, have, with some reluctance, taken to mom’s guidance on such Dutch Things. Mom dresses well, and so they see that you can dress beautifully elegantly, and you can also dress modestly in those ways.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:10:12]:

I mentioned that you were the president and CEO of Communio, and you sort of started to talk a little bit about what Communio is and what it focuses on. Tell me more about Communio, and then we’ll talk about some of the research. I wanna hear more about the organization first.

JP DeGance [00:10:28]:

Sure. So we function like as a business to business, a b to b, so to speak, as a business model. So our customers always and everywhere, the local church. Okay. We equip the local church to evangelize through the renewal of healthy relationships, the Marriage, and the family. And a major part of, obviously, that is fatherhood. And so we do that through Coaching churches, training churches, and evidence-based strategies on relationship health. We do help produce No.

JP DeGance [00:10:59]:

A transformation in the mindset of pastors in the church is that investing in the strength of your marriage or your relationships is something everybody does. If you wanna be healthy, happy, and holy, no. And then that’s what that’s what one ought to do. And a big thing is part of that message is for men. Right? Heavily, on dads. If I love my children, One of the best ways for me to love my children is, whenever it’s possible, to love the mother of my children more than my own children because when I do that, it spills over and has lifetime benefits on our children.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:11:33]:

I mentioned the fact that your organization had been doing some research into loneliness. So talk to me about That and why your organization chose to start doing research on this topic.

JP DeGance [00:11:46]:

I’ve been startled like many of the Folks who’ve who’ve looked into space; we’ve got shortening lifespans. We are, as a country, when I was a kid. When you were a kid, people talk futurists saying, you know, maybe we’re gonna live to a 100 or maybe a 110 in the future. It’ll just be normal. No one ever thought 40 or 50 years ago that people would be short, living shorter and shorter lives. And that’s that’s where we are, particularly men as of recently, but it’s also women. And we’re heavily divergent from similar countries. So if you look at other countries of high wealth, we are having a sharp decline in our lifespan.

JP DeGance [00:12:20]:

That has a heavy relationship to the loneliness problem. In 2008, the first year in the United States, the surgeon general said that we had an epidemic of loneliness, and it’s only increased. And so we work with our client churches to a small number of factors, no And one of those is loneliness, and there’s something called the UCLA summary loneliness index. It’s a 3 question tool that when you use it, depending on how you answer it, no If you score 6 or higher on it, you fit the public health definition of loneliness, which means your lifespan is basically the difference between dying in your the Mid-seventies to dying in your late fifties or, you know, right at sixty. Okay. And that’s how significant it is. And and so.

JP DeGance [00:13:03]:

We wanted to make folks aware of what’s going on with it. And, well, one of the things that stuck out sadly is some of the findings were it’s not who you think. Is lonely. Right? You would think it would make sense that it’s the elderly and it’s the widowed are the most likely to be lonely. And the reality is that the loneliest folks in the survey were the never married in their thirties and also the divorced in their thirties. Those were the two loneliest groups. They were lonelier than widows, and there was the loneliest group of widows were widows in their Fifties, which makes sense, and widowers and widows in their fifties, which makes sense. It’s premature to have lost a spouse.

JP DeGance [00:13:46]:

That age, or maybe you’re a recent empty nester, and so there’s a major life change. But even still, someone who’s 30, the 4-year-old who’s never married, or 33 who’s divorced. They’re actually lonelier by a significant margin than those folks and Docs. Making sure, you know, when we talk to our client churches, like, this is something you need to be aware of. Right? Like, this is as a pastor, Doc. If you’re talking about the importance of forming a heterogeneous community between singles and married, divorced and widowed, the Young and old. That should be a normal part of life in thinking through how to form those kinds of interlocking communities. The folks can have meaningful relationships and have the kind of purpose that flows from meaningful relationships that undo all of the horrible health effects of loneliness.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:14:34]:

So, a part of the Organization that this podcast is all about is called Fathering Together, and we talk about the importance of building community. And this show is all about raising our kids. I think that things that you just said are things that we need to reinforce with our kids in many different ways. As your organization delves deeper into not only some of the causes and the groups that are being affected to raise the consciousness of society around us, it will be able to start making changes internally. But are there things that your organization may have identified that, as parents, we should be aware of To be able to reinforce with our own kids as they’re getting older to help them not lead that lonely life the As they

JP DeGance [00:15:22]:

get older. Yeah. You know, first, it’s critically important, and this is gonna sound to some listeners paradoxical. One of the most important things is not to build Not. A child-centered home, but a parent-centered home. And I mean that in the sense of whether there’s a marriage in the home or you’re parenting with a spouse, Dom. The most important relationship is the spouse. And when that happens, a child can actually feel safe and trust That our ability to form social trust, one of the big things that social scientists have uncovered is that our levels of social trust in America are in rapid decline.

JP DeGance [00:15:55]:

We first learned to trust others based on those most primal relationships with our parents. And then when we see it model the Father to the child, but then when the child sees the dad relating frequently to the spouse. And so what’s key is to model a life where, no, you know, it’s easy. Right? I’ve paid kids, but you can do this with two kids. You can revolve your entire life around youth sports, youth activities, academic competitiveness, anything that you want, whatever you want to turn fashion into the idol, I think. The reality is that when it’s a child-centered home, You raise people who will become self-centered later. Okay? Because they see themselves, hey. The most important people in my life communicated that I was the most important person in my life.

JP DeGance [00:16:48]:

And then now I’m going out into the world, and I’m the most important person in my life. No. And the paradox of happiness is living for the other. We’re wired deeply to live in some in a sacrificial way to not go out of our way for the other. That’s what love is. And so I think a key in raising our daughter’s dog. They see that we love their mothers and that we model the kinds of healthy friendships that should be in our lives. And then, obviously, that doesn’t mean that you don’t do your sports, and it doesn’t mean that you don’t want your child to be competitive and great at what they’re doing.

JP DeGance [00:17:25]:

No. But rightly ordered is the key here that these things are held, intention. There’s moderation in such things. So sometimes there is a hard decision that needs to be made that as a husband, right, I need it’s maybe not the best thing for my marriage that I I don’t see my wife For thirteen weekends in a row because we’re doing travel sports every weekend. I’d not say that that being in a hyperbolic example. Right? And then if you’re you’re a single dad, okay, you’re an unmarried dad, Then I think that that’s important to model a life of moderation. Right? So that a child can see and live a life of moderation where the child is Nuts. Encouraged and supported by that relationship between father and daughter, if I can’t trust that my dad’s there for me, it spills over into lots of other areas of my life later as I grow up.

JP DeGance [00:18:15]:

And I can’t then trust that a future person who pursues me, as a man pursuing your daughter in the future, It’s harder for that daughter to trust in the relationship. It’s harder for her to trust certain friendships or business in relationships. So much of who we are is formed in our family of origin.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:18:34]:

Appreciate that. Now, as you think about relationships with other men, In regard to the importance of having bonds with others as well, what is your study found about the importance of having those connections to people outside of your family that Can help you to stave off loneliness?

JP DeGance [00:18:57]:

Yeah. Look. I’m a huge fan. I’m a big believer in mentorship and community Among men. So I have had a friend group of other dads that range in age, that are ranged about a dozen years older than me and about a dozen years younger than me. And we’re actually on a text thread together, and we’ll text each other. We’ll get together periodically, Socially, mostly, but sometimes we do, what you would consider a Christian small group activity, but it’s certainly a mix.

JP DeGance [00:19:27]:

And I have benefited so much from just being pals with dads who have some kids who are Doubt. 10 years further ahead of the journey on me and being able to talk to him. Nothing structured and formal,, you know, being able to Go over for a barbecue and a beer and talk and talk about challenges of fatherhood and the Thinking of being thoughtful about forming our children is just incredibly important and incredibly important within the realm of loneliness. Right? There’s so many, so many men. We are Wired, Richard Reeves wrote a book on boys and men. He’s actually a progressive scholar but spends a lot of time writing about men. And it’s his argument that I’m I kinda persuaded on that in a lot of ways, masculinity in its social manifestation is no A bit more fragile than femininity, and his argument is that you know, we’re wired for purpose.

JP DeGance [00:20:22]:

Humans are wired for purpose. Right? And we derive our sense of purpose most frequently from being a husband and then being a father. Okay? And when we walk through life, and we got those 2 things out of our life, what you’re seeing doc Is ex what researchers identified is this epidemic of loneliness because and you’ve got an explosive growth in opioids and substance abuse, men died, and liver cirrhosis. Doc. All of this is what happened. It’s the social manifestation or the psychological manifestation of social phenomena where you no longer have that sense of purpose is now void, no And

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:20:54]:

it needs to be filled with something.

JP DeGance [00:20:54]:

And frequently, it’s found in forms of escape. And our role as a dad Should be for anybody listening; this should be a place where I derive a deep, deep sense of purpose in my life. Ideally, the Best outcomes occur when you’re a married dad. But then, if you’re not a married dad, then it’s how do I find ways to function in a healthy way as frequently as I can as a single dad. And understand this is deeply who you are, and you’ve created another person. A daughter shares your DNA, half of your DNA, and her self-image, her mental health, her future decisions on who she couples up with, who her spouse is, her future feelings of loneliness or isolation or the lack thereof, Doc. Wrapped up in her relationship, whether you like it or not with her.

JP DeGance [00:21:47]:

And so that should actually, I don’t share that to scare any of the listeners. No, I show that to encourage you and just know you’ve got a big job. We’ve got big jobs as dads. We’re not replaceable. Nobody else can serve that role as a dad. And so the Latin phrase, be a man. We have to step up and be a man.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:06]:

You sharing that. Now we always finish our interviews with what I like to call our fatherhood five. We’re gonna ask the Five more questions to delve deeper into you as a dad. Are you ready?

JP DeGance [00:22:14]:

Yeah. Go ahead.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:15]:

In one word, what is fatherhood?

JP DeGance [00:22:17]:

Fun. I don’t know. I feel like it’s a lot of fun.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:19]:

When did you finally feel like you succeeded at being a father to a daughter?

JP DeGance [00:22:24]:

I read a book to my teenagers. I read we do a lot of read-aloud books, no, And we’ve done stuff like Tolkien and Baham. I picked a book called How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk. And I told my kids, and I told my daughter. I told my teenage boys and my teenage daughter that I read to them. I told them, look. It’s too late for your mother, but it’s not too late for you. And my daughter, at the end of it, okay, this is about as high praise as you can get. From a 14-year-old, she said, Dad, this is the 1st book you read to me that was interesting.

JP DeGance [00:22:51]:

And so I felt like knowing my daughter, that’s, like, spiking the football. She’s like, this is the greatest thing ever is what what that Dawson. So I felt like that was a major win.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:58]:

I love that. I haven’t read that book, but I think I might have to check it out.

JP DeGance [00:23:01]:

It’s a great book. Read by my friend John Van App. He’s a great scholar And a student of human relationships.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:23:07]:

Appreciate you sharing that. Now if I were to talk to your kids, how would they describe you as a dad?

JP DeGance [00:23:12]:

I think they would say I’m the Don Juan. But I also know, you know, they’d say fun and that dad likes to teach us. And so because when we’re eating dinner at the table, I’m usually we’re doing pop Quizzes, whether it’s on matters of deep importance or or matters of college football. It just depends.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:23:30]:

Who inspires you to be a better dad?

JP DeGance [00:23:32]:

All 8 of my kids. I feel an awesome responsibility that I know Doc. No one will have a greater impact on our likelihood of living a healthy and happy life later than me and certainly their mother. But there’s a lot of data. It says, particularly for our daughters, that there’s this outsized major impact that dads play, and so I just can’t help, but when I see my kids in the morning, especially my little 4-year-old, I can’t help. Lucy, my youngest, is a daughter, and she runs the house, as my older kids all know. I

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:24:16]:

You’ve given a lot of pieces of advice today. As we finish up today, what’s 1 piece of advice you’d want to give to every dad?

JP DeGance [00:24:21]:

Live life with your children. And I mean that song, The Cats in the Cradle and the Silver Spoon. A little boy, blue, and the man on the moon. When you come home, son, I don’t know when. I think so. Many times, it’s so critical for us to abide and be around our children and enjoy when they’re little to be with them And in the things that they love to do. Even though it may not be the most fun thing for us when our little ones are little push yourself to find the joy in playing and condescending to your daughters when they’re really little. And because as you do that and continue to do that, As they get older, they will want to spend time with you, and you will want to spend time with them.

JP DeGance [00:25:02]:

The thing that I’ve gotten the most joy out of is actually these teenage years. Now that I am a college freshman, all of my teenagers actually enjoy spending time with me, and they like spending time with their friends. But when it’s time to do something, they look forward to it. And they’re okay with an occasional Friday night or Saturday night and dad, I’m watching some games with dad or or spending some time with dad. And that’s all built on years of living life with them from a young age.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:25:31]:

Well, JP, I just wanna say thank you. Thank you for sharing your journey, for sharing this study. If people wanna find out more About you, about your organization, where should they go?

JP DeGance [00:25:40]:

Go to communio.org, particularly to get the study, which goes into the slowness of data, the Goes into a lot of interesting stuff. Particularly, it goes into a lot of research on fathers’ impact on faith practice, Which for dads who are interested in understanding that, it’s communio.org backslash study. It’s the relationship with our earthly father. That has an impact on whether or not you believe that there’s a heavenly father out there who loves you.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:08]:

Well, JP, I just wanna, again, say thank you. Thank you for being here. Thank you for sharing and being able to help fathers to be able to see the importance of finding that community around them, and I wish you all the best.

JP DeGance [00:26:18]:

Hey. Thank you so much, Christopher.

Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:20]:

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Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:59]:

If you are a father of a daughter and have not yet joined the Dads with Daughters Facebook community, there’s a link in the notes today.

Dr. Christopher Lewis:

Dad’s with Daughters is a program of fathering together. We look forward to having you back for another great guest next week, all geared to helping you raise strong, empowered daughters And be the best dad that you can be.

Dr. Christopher Lewis :

We’re all in the same boat, and it’s full of tiny screaming passengers. We spend the time. We give the lessons. We make the meals. We buy them presents. Bring your A-Game because those kids are growing fast. The time goes by just like a dynamite blast calling astronauts and firemen, carpenters, and musclemen. Get out and be the world to them. Be the best dad you can be. Be the best dad you can be.

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Christopher Lewis


Christopher is the co-founder of Fathering Together and the Chief Information Officer. He is the father of 2 daughters that are now in their tweens and teens. He started Dad of Divas, a blog to share his own personal experiences in being a father in 2007 and in 2018 started the Dads With Daughters Facebook Group to allow dads to connect, learn and grow together. He works in Digital Media on a daily basis, but also has over 20 years of experience in higher education administration.

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