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The Journey of Being a Dad
Fatherhood is a journey filled with joy, challenges, and continuous growth. On the latest episode of the Dads with Daughters podcast, we sit down with Damien Moore, a dedicated father and founder of Dad’s Daily Digest. Through their engaging conversation, Damien shares heartfelt experiences, invaluable insights, and practical advice for fathers striving to raise resilient and compassionate children.
Preparing for the Unexpected
The Impact of COVID-19 on Fatherhood
Damien Moore’s journey into fatherhood coincided with an unprecedented global event—the COVID-19 pandemic. His daughter was born just six weeks before the world shut down. As a budding freelance professional, Damien faced the harsh reality of job loss while also navigating the new terrain of fatherhood amidst a pandemic. The absence of his family in the crucial initial months underscored the emotional strain many new parents faced during this period.
“There’s no parenting tips or books that tell you how to parent during a pandemic,” Damien states, highlighting the uncertainty that clouded the early days of his fatherhood journey.
Despite these challenges, Damien found solace and support in technology, enabling constant communication with his family through virtual platforms. This adaptability and reliance on a support network became a cornerstone of his approach to parenting during these trying times.
Addressing Mental Health: A Family Affair
Understanding and Managing Anxiety
Both Damien and his wife come from families with a history of mental health challenges, making them acutely aware of the importance of mental well-being. Recognizing early signs of anxiety in their daughter, they took proactive steps to understand and address her needs. From withholding toileting behaviors to being easily startled, these manifestations of anxiety required a sensitive and informed approach.
“We adapt as parents based on our kids’ personalities,” shares Damien, emphasizing the need for a tailored parenting approach that considers individual differences.
Damien’s candidness about his own mental health struggles and his decision to seek therapy underline the importance of self-awareness and the willingness to seek help. By sharing these experiences, he sets a powerful example for other fathers, encouraging them to prioritize their mental health for the benefit of their families.
Building a Supportive Community
The Birth of Dad’s Daily Digest
Inspired by personal experiences and a desire to support other fathers, Damien launched Dad’s Daily Digest—a platform aimed at providing advice, sharing stories, and fostering a supportive community among fathers. The alarming rise in suicide rates during the pandemic, particularly among men, motivated Damien to create a space where fathers could find solace, encouragement, and practical tips on navigating the complexities of parenthood.
“If I just touch one person and inspire one individual… that’s all that matters to me.”
Through this platform, Damien hopes to tackle the stigma around mental health and provide a lifeline to fathers who might be struggling in silence. His unwavering commitment to making a positive impact, even if it’s one person at a time, speaks volumes about his dedication to this cause.
Lessons in Empathy and Compassion
A Beautiful Gesture
In a touching anecdote shared on the podcast, Damien recounts a moment with his daughter that encapsulates the essence of the lessons he strives to impart. While at a McDonald’s drive-thru, his daughter’s simple yet profound act of kindness towards a homeless individual demonstrated the values of empathy and generosity that Damien and his wife instill in her.
“Her gesture was just so beautiful… it nearly brought me to tears.”
These moments of heartfelt connection not only reinforce the principles Damien values but also highlight the significant impact that nurturing a compassionate environment can have on a child’s development.
Looking Towards the Future
Hopes and Aspirations
As Damien continues to build Dad’s Daily Digest, his ultimate aspiration is to become a motivational speaker, sharing his journey and insights on a larger scale. By doing so, he hopes to inspire and support more fathers in their quest to raise strong, compassionate daughters while also navigating their own personal challenges.
In concluding his conversation with Dr. Christopher Lewis, Damien leaves listeners with a powerful piece of advice: put life into perspective, recognize your blessings, and approach each day with gratitude. These principles not only shape his parenting philosophy but also serve as a guiding light for fathers everywhere striving to be the best they can be.
This comprehensive blog post captures the essence of the podcast episode, featuring key anecdotes and insights shared by Damien Moore, ultimately providing valuable guidance and motivation for fathers navigating the beautiful yet challenging journey of parenthood.
TRANSCRIPT (Unedited transcript created using CASTMAGIC)
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:05]:
Welcome to Dads with Daughters. In this show, we spotlight dads, resources, and more to help you be the best dad you can be.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:16]:
Welcome back to the Dance with Daughters podcast where we bring you guests to be active participants in your daughters’ lives, raising them to be strong, independent women. Really excited to have you back again this week. And every week, I love being able to sit down, talk to you, work with you as you are trying to be the best dad that you wanna be. And as you are trying to raise your daughters into those strong independent women that all of us want for our kids. And I so appreciate that you come back every week to be able to learn, to grow, to be willing to hear the stories of others, and to be able to take those stories and be able to turn them into action. Because it is important. It’s important to be able to be willing to listen and to learn and to know that none of us have all the answers. None of us are perfect ads, and nobody has the handbook in regard to what it means and what it takes to be the perfect dad.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:16]:
There’s lots of different ways to father, lots of different ways to be a dad. And you can learn along the way if you’re open to it and you’re willing to listen and learn from others. That’s why this podcast exists. Every week, I bring you different people, different dads, different individuals with resources that can help you to be that dad that you wanna be. And today, we got another great guest with us. Damian Moore is with us. And Damien is a father and also is has has a resource out there called Dad’s Daily Digest. So we’re gonna be talking about both of those aspects, getting to know him a little bit more, and I’m really excited to have him here.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:53]:
Damien, thanks so much for being here today.
Damien Moore [00:01:54]:
Thank you so much for having me.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:56]:
Well, I’m really excited to have you here today. And I always start these episodes with an opportunity to turn the clock back in time. I’d love to go back. I know your daughter is 4 and a half, and I would love to go back and might be 4 and a half years, could be 5a half years. But I wanna go back to the very first moment that you found that you were going to be a dad to a daughter. What was going through your head?
Damien Moore [00:02:18]:
Yeah. So I was actually in the UK at the time. I found out the gender. My wife called me. I was visiting family. I’m originally from the UK and France, and I got the call. And it was just ecstatic. I mean, it’s you know, I think as a guy, I I always thought, you know, I’d like to have a little boy.
Damien Moore [00:02:35]:
But I’ve always friends of mine who have actually many of my friends had daughters before me. And they, you know, told me just how precious it was and how special it was to have that kind of daddy daughter bond. So, I mean, I was absolutely ecstatic to find out that news. And, yeah, to this day, it’s just the greatest feeling, and bond is so true, and I’ve just loved every minute so far.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:55]:
Now I talked to a lot of dads, and and a lot of dads and daughters talk to me about the fact that walking into fatherhood can be scary in general, just being a father, because we don’t know always what we’re getting into. But being a father of a daughter sometimes brings its own fears. What would you say has been your biggest fear in raising a daughter?
Damien Moore [00:03:14]:
I think, as you say, I obviously t to raise a confident, independent girl, one that kind of can can take on the world in her own way. Take on the world in her own way. I don’t wanna, you know, control her too much. I wanna her to understand that the world is is a fluid and flexible place that you can kind of embrace in many different ways. And I think being raised by a a very kind of strong mother, you know, she instilled kind of positivity in me every day and just to kind of really embrace the world ahead of us and challenges and and opportunities. And I think I just wanna give her that opportunity every day that life is a beautiful thing and it’s embrace every day with kind of open arms. There will be challenges. There will be tough times, and it’s how you best prepare them for those moments in life when they one day leave the nest.
Damien Moore [00:03:56]:
You know, we have a role as parents to be there for their whole lives until we die, but when they’re here at home with us, when we’re raising them, we have a responsibility to kind of, you know, keep them safe and make sure that they understand and and teach them in in a in a in a way that’s not too I wouldn’t say too controlling, but in a way that kind of allows them to understand the world up, you know, outside of the house and be best prepared as possible. Because life can be tough. You know? Life throws all sorts of challenges. And for me particularly, you know, I had my daughter 6 weeks before COVID closed down the world and went through a really personal tough time during that moment because my own family couldn’t visit my daughter. Basically, 16 months. They didn’t meet her until she was 16 months old, and as a new dad, particularly wanted to celebrate this moment. This was like something you dream of. You celebrate the birth of your first child with your parents, with your your siblings, and it was really tough.
Damien Moore [00:04:44]:
They they were 1 week away from coming to America, and then the borders closed, and it was kind of a there’s no, like, parenting tips or books that tell you how to parent during a pandemic. It’s like, that doesn’t exist. So, you know, my wife and I kind of went through the motions of, like, wow, this is actually happening. The world’s shutting down. We have a 6 week 6 week old daughter. I was actually freelancing at the time and lost my job as well. So it all happened at a very, very stressful moment, like and it was, like, gonna be this most beautiful thing ever, and it was. Like, you know, the first few weeks was, like, incredible.
Damien Moore [00:05:14]:
You know, we’ve got dogs at home. It’s like the dogs are super happy to have this new baby at home, but then the world shut down, and we had to kind of really adjust and figure life out as new parents during a COVID pandemic. And I think those life learnings for me just reiterate how we can best prepare our kids for the unexpected and for, you know, just to be best prepared for the real world.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:05:34]:
Definitely a challenging time, and COVID threw us all through a loop in many different ways. But being able to have a child right at the beginning and not being able to allow for your family and others to be able to interact. How did you have to pivot, especially losing a job, having a new child, just a couple of stressors in that situation during that pandemic? How did you pivot to be able to make the most of what you had, but also be able to move forward with being a father and moving into a new job and and other things as well.
Damien Moore [00:06:12]:
Yes. I mean, thankfully, even now during COVID and and now, my wife’s family is very close to us. So thankfully, we had her support network. So we had her mom, her brothers, and other wider family members around us. So we had that support, which was very needed at the time. Now for me, personally, I I did struggle not having my mom, my dad available right next door. So we’re blessed today to have great technology, so FaceTime was critical. You know, we did a lot of FaceTiming, and it’s amazing how, you know, from just an early age, how much these children pick up and learn and they recognize faces.
Damien Moore [00:06:45]:
So the first time my daughter met my mom when she was 16 months old, she wasn’t a complete stranger because she she did recognize her through the FaceTime interaction. So we’re lucky today to have that type of technology to stay in touch with members of our family despite the distances. I mean, moving to America, I always knew, you know, building a life here and having a family here would always be different than what I was raised with because I was raised with family members very close to me in the UK. But I knew I was kind of giving, you know, distance between me and my family, so I always knew that my parents always have a different relationship with my daughter than my my brother’s daughters who live in the UK. And I was okay with that because I know technology is great today to kind of stay in touch. I mean, from a professional standpoint, on the job side, it was a rough few months. I personally am very I’m kind of an extrovert. I love being around people.
Damien Moore [00:07:30]:
I love socializing. So COVID was tough on that side of my own kind of mental challenges. I I was obviously locked at home a lot, so I decided to actually become a waiter during that time. I done waiting very early on in my in my teens, but I decided to become a waiter to kinda get myself out of the house so I could put my mental being in a better place. So at home, I wasn’t so stressed and anxious and cooped up in the house. Being a waiter allowed me to get out of the house, socialize with people, it just gave me a better, like, headspace for myself. So I did that for about 8 months. As well as, obviously, it provided some sort of revenue for the family.
Damien Moore [00:08:03]:
Not not obviously huge, but it gave me something to kind of keep going. So, I mean, that’s how I pivoted during those times.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:08:09]:
You went through some challenging times at the very beginning. You moved into where you are today. Throughout your time in raising your daughter. It’s not always going to be positive moments or easy moments. There’s definitely challenges along the way. What’s been the hardest part in being a father to a daughter?
Damien Moore [00:08:27]:
So I think it’s adapting to their personalities. They’re, you know, they’re little unique humans, and I got parented one way. My wife got parented another way. So for me, even those cultural differences from America and the UK, vastly different the way we were parented. So I’ve had to just adapt. And I’ve actually embraced the way my wife’s parenting style, which is very, I would say, kind of open door policy, very family orientated. It’s not to say that I wasn’t brought up family orientated, but it’s it’s just a different style here, and I’ve actually really embraced it the way we’ve kind of oriented our child. Both on my wife’s side and my and my side, we’ve kind of come from families with that suffer from depression and and anxiety, and we know this is hereditary.
Damien Moore [00:09:06]:
So we we’re kind of aware and very conscious about that with our daughter, what kind of traits will she pick up from that, and she is a very anxious toddler. From a very young age, she would withhold, and withholding is when children obviously don’t have much control over anything is when they withhold going to the toilet. So withholding their poo, so it’s that can be quite stressful for a toddler, you know. They go 2 or 3 days without going to the toilet. And as a parent, we have to start, you know, pivoting and taking care of this because it can get quite serious if there’s not she doesn’t relieve herself. So we noticed these traits very early on and we kind of read up about it and it’s it’s typical anxiety within toddlers. And to this day, there’s traits we see today. She’s very easily startled, for example.
Damien Moore [00:09:44]:
So growing up and even like when she was 2, 3 years old, I work in the basement here at home sometimes. And if I just come up through the basement door, she’d easily be startled terrified, absolutely terrified, running, like screaming because a noise startled her. So we’ve had to really adjust the kind of how we parent her in a way that’s kind of, I’d say, really conscious to that to her anxiety, and we make sure that she feels as safe as possible and that we’re here. We’re here for her. We’re here to talk to her. We’re here to listen to her. Just to understand those fears and kinda parent her in a way that’s, not as I said earlier, not too controlling on her because she needs that control. She’s like anxious, so she wants to control situations and she wants to kind of get through them in in her way and and manage it in her way.
Damien Moore [00:10:24]:
And I think, you know, we have to learn from our kids as well. Even from a very early age, we adapt as parents based on our kids’ personalities. And while she has these anxious moments, she’s also just an absolutely beautiful soul. I mean, she’s just a delight to be around. She’s a lot of fun as well. She likes to dance and giggle and all that. So it’s just managing those different personality traits very early on.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:10:44]:
So talk to me a little bit about mental health and some of the things that you just were talking about. The fact that, you know, you come from a family that has battled mental health issues. Your wife has as well. You’re dealing with your own things that you are working through, whether it’s things that you have had that you’ve brought with you through your own upbringing and your familial ties or the own your own issues that you’re dealing with, and you’re starting to see those things in your own child. Talk to me about what you’ve had to do thus far as you’ve worked with your own child to work through some of these? And what are some of the things that you think that you’re going to have to do based on what you’re seeing now and what you think may happen, seeing that she’s only 4a half at this point?
Damien Moore [00:11:33]:
Both my wife and I, we both have, as I said, family history in in kind of depression and anxiety. And I was raised around that as a as a young child, and, my parents got divorced when I was about 6 years old. And, you know, as a child, you’re not really aware of what’s happening at that age. But as an adult, I’ve kind of really started questioning it and talking to my dad who suffers from depression to get his side of the story. I wanna understand from him what he went through at literally my age now. You know, he went through a divorce. He had 3 boys. And I was just I wanted to understand the stresses and pressures that he was under because when I went through COVID, as I said, a new dad lost my job.
Damien Moore [00:12:07]:
I had my own kind of battles at that time. So he was a great resource for me to talk to. He really kind of helped just explain things to me in certain ways that I was challenging my own self. So he was great to kind of be a a kind of a a person of of resource for me personally during some really difficult times. I think, you know, for our daughter, there are obviously child therapists out there that we, you know, we wanna potentially engage with at some point soon. We’ve noticed some of these behaviors have died down a little bit, like the the the startling doesn’t happen as much now as it used to when she’s 2 or 3 years old because some of the things that she just gets used to, her her surroundings and her environment. But we’re aware that you know, we constantly talk, my wife and I, about these you know, about the kind of our upbringings and and how this may influence our daughter and and just very conscious and aware of her behaviors. And we’re just lucky today, I think.
Damien Moore [00:12:54]:
You know, mental health is so much more prominent and so much more spoken. There’s more visibility around it today than there was when my parents were growing up. When I spoke to my dad, I remember him saying to me, if he was having a down day, people would just say nip it in the bud, get on with your day kind of thing. That was the attitude. But today, people are so much more conscious about it. You know, companies have better kind of mental health, kind of resources available. So we’re definitely lucky in that instance that we can have that access to great resources. I myself have actually personally started therapy for the first time in the last couple of months.
Damien Moore [00:13:23]:
I’ve never had therapy. I’ve never kind of felt the need of therapy. My wife’s had therapy her entire life. So I’ve just wanted to kind of explore that for myself as an avenue just to kind of speak to someone else, speak to an independent individual that’s not kind of part of, you know, my network of family and friends and not my wife’s network of family and friends. And I’ve always just, you know, from the first session or 2, I’ve actually found it quite liberating just sharing stuff with someone I don’t really know. And as I said, I’ve never done it before, so I’m kinda learning my own ways through therapy. And, you know, we’ll tackle that with our daughter when we feel like we need to. We’ve got, obviously, her doctor we talk to a lot about.
Damien Moore [00:13:56]:
We ask her a lot of questions about certain things that, you know, we’ve noticed, and she gives us great advice already. So, yes, we take it day by day for now.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:14:03]:
And it’s all you can do. And I know that with all of those experiences, you got motivated. You got motivated to try to start having these conversations with other men, with other fathers, to be able to help individuals through a new venture called Dad’s Daily Digest, the blog TikTok that you’re trying to engage people to talk to people inspire people in different ways. Talk to me about Dad’s Daily Digest Outside of what I just said, what were some of the impetuses for why you wanted to move in this way to be able to engage with other men in this way?
Damien Moore [00:14:39]:
The real motivation, my uncle committed suicide when I was probably my early twenties. I’ve had a friend commit suicide as well through alcohol abuse. Again, I was in my mid twenties when that happened. So I’ve been exposed to suicide, and I know the effects it hap it has on families. And when COVID hit, I started seeing the suicide rates going up. You know, you read about it in the news, you see it, and it disproportionately affects men. And I think last year, I think it was about 50,000 people commit suicides in the US alone last year. I think 80% of those were men.
Damien Moore [00:15:10]:
Now these statistics are alarming. And, you know, having gone through it with my uncle and knowing, you know, the pain and and it causes families is I wanted to create a platform of of sorts to, I guess, inspire people and also just maybe give tips and advice on life, having been through these experiences myself and knowing what it does to families. So I’ve started this, as you say, Dad’s Daily Digest, where I wanted to share some of my own struggles I’ve gone through from my professional career to my personal life. And I said to myself, even if I just touch one person and inspire one individual from potential changing their mind on the way they go in life, that’s all that matters to me. I’m not here to, like, change the whole world, but it’s like I wanna make a little dent in that space. I wanna inspire men and be a resource of some sort of resource and maybe give tips and advice through that platform, and just to show that life is tough. I mean, we go through struggles, but you can persevere and you can really kind of rely on others. And I am very lucky.
Damien Moore [00:16:10]:
I know I’m very lucky that I’ve got a great network around me. I’ve really got a supportive family. I’ve got a supportive wife, and I’ve got her family that support me. So I know I’m blessed to have that, and I know some people don’t have that necessarily. So if they just reach out through a platform and just wanna get ask a question or have a concern, I wanna be someone there potentially to help them. I just you know, as I said, even just touching one person’s life would be would mean a lot to me. I’ve just started creating this platform just to kinda get content out there and be a bit more of a voice in that space to hopefully inspire other men.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:16:41]:
Now you’ve just started this platform. You’re starting to get words out there. What are you finding thus far in the conversations that you’re having with people that you’re interacting with?
Damien Moore [00:16:49]:
It’s been actually quite lovely. I’ve actually came to a few dads who have similar TikTok channels, and I think it’s just relatable. We you know, obviously, each family is unique in the way they bring their their children, but there’s so much we can relate to, so many similar funny situations, stressful situations that you go through being a parent. So it’s nice to know that there’s a community of us out there in that space, giving this kind of motivation, inspiration for others. So it’s nice to know that you’re not alone out there, kind of, trying to do this. There are other people out there. I mean, even yesterday, I posted a video. My daughter did this really touching thing, and I just had to share it in the moment.
Damien Moore [00:17:24]:
I was taking her through to a Happy Meal at McDonald’s, and we got approached by a homeless person at the window. Now I could see he really needed help, and he was actually you know, he didn’t come too close to my window. He saw I had a young child, but he slowed a certain distance, and then he said, you know, I don’t want money, I just want food. So I said, absolutely. What would you like me to get you? I’m putting the order in. He goes, just a burger and a bottle of water. So I said, absolutely. I’ll get you a burger and a bottle of water.
Damien Moore [00:17:46]:
And my daughter reached over to give him a dollar bill because she likes to pay the person now at McDonald’s money, she likes to do the kind of transaction. So she had this dollar bill in her hand, she gave it to him, and then he brought him to tears and then he brought me to tears because I was like, this gesture was just so beautiful, and even that post alone has kind of really reiterated that people just how beautiful these little moments. I mean, these children are so innocent, and it’s just you know, I then had a whole conversation with her about homeless people because she wasn’t you know, she was like, who is that person, daddy? Like, what what is he doing? And, you know, she wasn’t used to this interaction with with a homeless person. So I come out to explain to her that homeless people are unfortunate individuals that don’t have a home. We and I said, we’re really lucky. We go to a home. We have a warm bed to sleep in. We can shower.
Damien Moore [00:18:30]:
And she even asked me, she goes, how does he shower? So, you know, she was really inquisitive about this individual. So I had to kind of, you know, explain to her, unfortunately, there are people out there that don’t have homes and don’t have families, and it’s, you know, really tough on them. So and that’s why I said to her. I said, your generosity was just so beautiful, Jessa, and it was so beautiful, and I just thanked her for that moment because I just, yeah, it got it nearly nearly brought me to tears. So I think, you know, and just seeing the the reaction to that video alone was just really nice, People kinda really sharing, like, their positivity around kind of that parenting and positivity around the child’s behavior, and it’s just great to see that there is this community out there for for people that that may need it.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:19:07]:
It definitely warms your heart when you can see that and be able to be have that renewed sense of humanity that sometimes gets lost along the way. And sometimes we get lost in our own lives that it takes a child in the pure way that they see the world to be able to make us take a step back and say, Oh, yeah, you’re right. I lost that along the way. And I got a good reminder today.
Damien Moore [00:19:38]:
Exactly.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:19:39]:
So as you look at what you’re doing right now, what you’re putting out into the world, what you’re trying to create, as you think about the future, where do you want this to go?
Damien Moore [00:19:48]:
For now, if I just touch a few individuals’ lives, that would mean the world to me. You know, I think from from a personal standpoint, I’d like to have a stronger voice in that community. And, I mean, I think the ultimate goal one day, I would love to become a a motivational speaker. As I said, I’m an extrovert. I love being around people. I love, you know, trying to share my positivity and energy. I I kind of absorb other people’s energy, and I would like to, you know, hopefully one day turn that into me being out there and being a strong voice and just helping people on more of a larger scale than just, you know, kind of a small platform for now. So, yeah, that’s essentially where I’d like to go one day.
Damien Moore [00:20:22]:
Yeah.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:20:23]:
I love it. It. Now we always finish our interviews with what I like to call our fatherhood 5, where I ask you 5 more questions to delve deeper into you as a dad. Are you ready?
Damien Moore [00:20:31]:
Sure. Yeah.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:20:32]:
In one word, what is fatherhood?
Damien Moore [00:20:34]:
Beautiful.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:20:34]:
Now I know your daughter’s only 4 and a half, but I’m gonna still ask this question. When was the time that you finally felt that you succeeded at being a father to a daughter?
Damien Moore [00:20:42]:
I mean, even yesterday’s moment was very touching. I guess when I see her sheer generosity and empathy and compassionate to other people. I’ve been a strong believer in actually raising my daughter around animals because of what that actually teaches children from a very young age. It teaches them responsibility, teaches them compassionate, empathy. Fortunately, it also teaches them about about death because we’ve had a couple of dogs die since she’s been born and kind of explains to her what death is. But I think just seeing this beautiful girl through her life learnings and just seeing it kind of come out into the world to other people is a joy to see. So I think I take that as a success every day.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:21:19]:
Now if I was to ask your daughter, how would she describe you as a dad?
Damien Moore [00:21:22]:
Probably say I’m quite silly. I like to do a lot of silly dancing with her. Ever since she was young, I I personally quite like my EDM music, and I like to get her into my DJs, so she’s always kind of danced along to me. But I think also she probably I’m the one that’s the slightly firmer one when it comes to consequences in the house. I think, you know, we all experience tantrums. We all experience that kind of naughty behavior. From about 3a half, 4 years old, she’s been kinda testing the waters in terms of retaliation and testing, like, how far she can test her parents. So I probably am the firmer one compared to my wife.
Damien Moore [00:21:56]:
I like to give more consequences if I if I have to. So I don’t know if I should use that, but I hopefully I think it should lead with silliness and fun because, personally, I had a good upbringing, but I wasn’t necessarily raised by a dad who was silly and very fine and engaging. I was raised by great parents, but I don’t recall my childhood memories as being silly and, like, just goofing around a lot. So I’ve wanted to instill that a lot in my parenting as my own you know, being a dad to my daughter. I just want it to be, like, lots of silliness and embrace that.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:27]:
And if you think about this in, let’s say, 15 years, what do you want her to say then?
Damien Moore [00:22:32]:
I hope she says that I’ve prepared her as best as pop as possible for the world. You know, I want her obviously to look up to me as as an inspiring figure in her life. I want her to feel that I’ve given her the most I possibly can in life. I’ve given her safety. I’ve given her a good upbringing. So, yeah, that they would be the things I’ll dream of in terms of her saying to me.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:51]:
Who inspires you to be a better dad?
Damien Moore [00:22:53]:
I have to say my mom. Because just knowing some of the upbringings that my family members have been through, I’ve always kind of just really pushed myself to be a better person. And I think she’s always been there as my person that I go to whenever I reach my lowest moments. I always call her. She’s my, you know, she’s kind of carried me through many, many struggling moments in life, and she will still ahead in the future. And she’s just my go to person for that. And she’s definitely been my inspiration in life and inspired me to be a better dad, for sure.
Damien Moore [00:23:23]:
Now you’ve given a lot of piece of advice today, things for people to think about, things to ponder, for people to consider for their own mental health and being able to do what they have to do. As you think about any father, no matter what their situation, what’s one piece of advice that you’d want to give to every dad?
Damien Moore [00:23:42]:
For me, personally, I’ve always liked to put things into perspective. I know we have to recognize our individual life and the stresses we deal with and not to ignore them. But at the same time, put things into perspective and just say to yourself, things could be so much worse. There’s so much happening out there in the world where there are errands going through a lot harder things than you may be yourself. And I think it’s important just to take a moment sometimes and just pause in that moment and say, do you know what? I’m blessed to have what I have right now. Like, I’m so thankful and share that gratitude and love to the people around you. And just know that it it can be so much tougher on other people in life. And I think just recognizing that and trying to instill that into your daily life a little bit, it’s something I’ve always tried to live by just growing up. And I definitely share that kind of as my one kind of piece of advice to people.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:24:33]:
Well, Damian, I just wanna say thank you. Thank you for sharing your own journey today, for sharing what you have gone through thus far, for sharing the resource that you’re putting together. If people wanna find out more about you, where should they go?
Damien Moore [00:24:46]:
Yeah. So the the Dads Daily Digest website is is dadsdailydigest.co. And there’s, yeah, there’s a way you can reach out to me there. And there’s also a TikTok channel if you wanna engage through TikTok. And also, I mean, I have a LinkedIn as well. So you can type my name in Damien Moore Evans, and you’ll find me on LinkedIn as well. So happy to people if they choose to.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:25:04]:
Well, Damien, thank you for being here today, and I wish you all the best.
Damien Moore [00:25:07]:
Thank you so much, Christopher. I appreciate it.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:25:09]:
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Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:26:07]:
We’re all in the same boat And it’s full of tiny screaming passengers. We spend the time. We give the lessons. We make the meals. We buy them presents and bring your AK. Because those kids are growing fast. The time goes by just like a dynamite blast. Calling astronauts and firemen, carpenters, and musclemen, get out and be the world to them. You’re the best dad you can be. You’re the best dad you can be.
