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Embracing the Journey and Overcoming Challenges
In a heartwarming conversation on the Dads with Daughters podcast, Bruce Chamoff, a seasoned podcaster and entrepreneur, shared insightful anecdotes about his journey as a father to his now 20-year-old daughter. As fatherhood is a unique and deeply personal experience, Bruce’s revelations bring valuable lessons to the forefront, shedding light on the joys, struggles, and growth that come with raising a daughter.
Welcoming Fatherhood: The Journey Begins
It’s not uncommon to feel a mix of excitement and bewilderment upon learning about pending fatherhood. Bruce’s recollections of the day he learned he was going to be a father to a daughter paint a vivid picture of the emotions that accompany this pivotal moment. He beautifully captures the blend of enthusiasm and uncertainty that fathers often experience, highlighting the eagerness to embark on the journey of parenthood while simultaneously grappling with the vast unknown that lies ahead.
Navigating Fears and Challenges: Insights from a Father’s Perspective
As Bruce shared his fears and concerns about raising a daughter, he echoed sentiments that many fathers can relate to. The apprehensions surrounding teenage years, the challenge of letting go, and the anxiety about protecting their daughters from potential heartbreak are universal themes. Bruce’s candid reflections provide a platform for fathers to recognize and acknowledge their fears while learning to embrace the inevitable challenges that come with guiding their daughters through adolescence.
Lessons Learned: Embracing Uniqueness and Understanding Balance
One of the most poignant moments from Bruce’s narrative revolves around the realization that children, especially daughters, will never mirror their parents entirely. This acknowledgment opens the door to a beautiful journey of comprehension and acceptance. By understanding their daughters’ unique traits and embracing the differences, fathers can forge deeper connections, fostering an environment of mutual respect and understanding.
The elusive balance between work and family life is a feat that many fathers strive to master. Bruce openly shared his experiences, acknowledging the struggle to balance his entrepreneurial endeavors with his responsibilities as a father. His insights underscore the importance of finding ways to integrate family into career pursuits, emphasizing the value of involving children in a father’s professional endeavors as a means of nurturing work-life balance.
The Impact of Podcasting: A Tool for Connection and Growth
Podcasting has been a transformative force in Bruce’s life, propelling him to connect with a global community and share his passions. Through podcasting, Bruce discovered a means to weave a rich tapestry of stories—a skill that also enhanced his role as a storyteller in his daughter’s life. His experiences serve as an inspiration for fathers to explore creative ways to engage with their daughters, fostering deeper connections through shared interests and joint pursuits.
Legacy and Continuation: Parenting and Professional Endeavors
In a heartening turn of events, Bruce’s professional journey subsequently intertwined with the personal domain, leading to a collaboration with his daughter on the World Podcast Network. This fusion exemplifies a harmonious blend of professional success and familial bonds, underscoring the significance of involving children in parents’ passions and enterprises. Through this alliance, Bruce not only imparts invaluable skills and knowledge but also lays the foundation for his daughter’s professional growth and development.
Navigating Fatherhood with Intention and Love
Bruce’s narrative offers an array of insights and reflections on fatherhood that resonate deeply with fathers from all walks of life. His journey encapsulates the essence of fatherhood—embracing the unknown with open arms, embarking on a path of continual growth, and fostering enduring connections with daughters. His story serves as a poignant reminder that fatherhood is not solely about providing but also about nurturing, guiding, and fostering a legacy of love and understanding.
TRANSCRIPT
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:05]:
Welcome to dads with daughters. In this show, we spotlight dads, resources, and more to help you be the best dad you can be.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:16]:
Welcome back to the Dads with Daughters podcast where we bring you guests to be active participants in your daughters’ lives, raising them to be strong, independent women. Really excited to have you back again this week. You know, every week, I love being able to sit down with you, to talk to you, to walk beside you on this path that you’re on in working to be the best dad that you want to be and working to make those meaningful connections that you want to make with your daughters. Why is it important? Well, it’s important because you signed up for it. You signed up to be a dad. You signed up to walk on this path to be there with your kids. And sometimes the journey can be lonely. Sometimes the journey can be challenging.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:00:56]:
And being able to learn from other dads, learn from other people, and understand that you’re not alone is just part of the battle. I love also being able to bring you different people, different people that have gone through this journey themselves. They are going through this journey themselves and can share the experiences that they’ve had as a father because you’re going to learn from them. And if you open yourself up to it, you’ll probably take a few things away from it to be able to help you to be that dad you wanna be and to help you raise that daughter that you wanna raise. This week, we’ve got another great guest with us today. Bruce Chamoff is with us today. And Bruce is with the World Podcast Network. I love talking about podcasting, but we’re not gonna be talking just about podcasting today.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:01:43]:
We’re gonna be actually talking about Bruce’s experience in being a father to a daughter. He’s got a 20 year old daughter That also helps him with podcasting too by go down that pipe that path a little bit. But I’m really excited to have him on, to have him tell his story, and for you to learn from him. Bruce, thanks so much for being here today.
Bruce Chamoff [00:02:02]:
Hey, thanks, Chris. It was
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:02:03]:
my pleasure. Know, one of the things that I love doing, 1st and foremost, is I love turning the clock back in time. I said that you had a 20 year old daughter. So I wanna turn the clock back maybe 21 years. You know, back to that first moment that you found out that you were going to be a father to a daughter. What was going through your head?
Bruce Chamoff [00:02:19]:
Well, I was at work, and my wife called me. Actually, we’re not married now, but she called me at the time and she said, are you sitting down? And I didn’t think of hearing that she was pregnant. So she said, I said, yeah. I’m sitting down. I’m pregnant. I was excited. I mean, I think every parent gets excited when they hear that, but they’re also dumbfounded at the same time. And I had that going through in my mind.
Bruce Chamoff [00:02:40]:
And then right away, we were talking about names. And that was the whole conversation. And, yes, I was excited. But, you know, that you just wanna be a parent. And you know that the day you hear that you are going to be a parent, you want those whole 9 months to just fly by. And that’s what was going through my mind. I’m like, okay. Yes.
Bruce Chamoff [00:03:02]:
I’m gonna be a dad. Yes. She’s pregnant. Perfect. I wish that that 9 months would just come tomorrow. You know? And that was it. But it was a really good journey, that whole thing. I got that new dad book series.
Bruce Chamoff [00:03:15]:
I forgot who the author was. I was reading that, like, from literally the first week when I found out that I was gonna be a dad and I was prepared. And that was it. You know, the whole family was excited. I mean, you know how that whole thing goes.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:03:25]:
So I talked to a lot of dads and a lot of dads say to me that in having a daughter, there’s some fear that goes along with that. You talked about pulling out those books and reading and trying to immerse yourself and learning what you need to learn and trying to figure it out. But as you think about the moments you’ve had with your daughter and raising your daughter, what was your biggest fear in raising a daughter?
Bruce Chamoff [00:03:47]:
What I’ve been hearing about from most people, and that is, oh, love her right now because when she becomes a teenager, she’s not gonna wanna know you. And then you gotta watch out for all the guys. And, of course, I’m thinking, well, I don’t really care about that now. We’re gonna go through 10 or 12 years of her not me not worrying about that and that’s what happened. But when she hit about 13, she was acting like a teenager and that’s when everybody says just watch the guys. They’re gonna come. They’re gonna blow on. I’m like, okay.
Bruce Chamoff [00:04:12]:
And I believe that’s the big fear from
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:04:14]:
It is scary. And now how did you get through that for yourself?
Bruce Chamoff [00:04:18]:
I mean, really, you can’t prepare for that. You just have to go through it. My friend Jay has I forgot how old his daughter is now but it’s funny because he was telling me I love my daughter. She says I’m the greatest dad in the world. I’m like, yeah, you know, my daughter told me that too. And after a while, it becomes sort of the opposite when it become a teenager. So just appreciate all the compliments she’s giving you right now because those compliments will go away for at least 4 to 5 years, and then they’ll come back. And then he said to me, well, I’m playing Roblox with her.
Bruce Chamoff [00:04:49]:
I said, oh, yeah. I played Roblox with my daughter. He says, they were around back then? I’m like, yeah. They’re very big company. They’re now public. They have a stock. People are investing in the stocks. Like, I didn’t know that.
Bruce Chamoff [00:04:58]:
I’m like, yeah. I didn’t know that either. But I’m now giving him advice that no one gave me because his daughter, I think, is about 5 years younger than mine. So what I went through and honestly, my daughter and I get along really well now. I’m excited to know what’s going on in her life. She calls me almost every day. She’s working for me on the podcast network. We get along great, and it’s amazing.
Bruce Chamoff [00:05:19]:
I just said, Jay, it’s gonna be a little bit of a ride when she becomes a teenager. And I tell all the dads, if your daughter is not a teenager right now and what people are telling you about your love her right now and appreciate all the love that she’s giving you because when she becomes a teenager, she’s not going to know you. And honestly, most people told me that. All I can say is you can’t really prepare for that. All you can do is prepare yourself because you can’t change your daughter. Your daughter’s gonna go that way. She’s gonna be influenced by peer pressure. She’s gonna be influenced by other teenagers, and there’s nothing you can do about that.
Bruce Chamoff [00:05:51]:
You can only change yourself as a dad and how you deal with it and just learn to accept it, know it’s coming, and also you can take comfort in the fact it’s gonna go away a couple years later. And that’s what I thought as
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:06:02]:
I mentioned, things are not always easy. As you said, you get into those teenage years and sometimes they could be bumpy, but there’s heart there’s times that’ll go simply, and they just flow. There’s times that will be challenging, and you get through those, and you push through those. What’s been the hardest part for you in being a father to a daughter?
Bruce Chamoff [00:06:21]:
That’s kind of a loaded question. I mean, I would say, probably, another mistake that parents make, and I made this too, and this is what the hardest part is, is trying to get your child, whether it’s a son or a daughter, to be exactly like you. And I tell all the dads that’s never going to happen. And you know what? My dad got ups. He got upset with me too because I wasn’t into the things that he was into. And you have to realize that your child, especially a daughter, will never be like you. They’ll have some of those traits. Right? Because they are your kid, but they’ll never be exactly like you.
Bruce Chamoff [00:06:52]:
And, also, the mother, you’re whether you’re married or not, your co parent is not like you either. So your daughter is going to take some of those traits as well and your daughter is going to take some of the of the traits from your entire family that also might not be you. So the hardest part for me was, okay, determining how is she like me, how is she not like me, and how we actually end up in the middle and accept all those things that she’s not like me? And I’m doing it. And it’s it’s really cool thing because now I’m learning from my daughter. My father told me when I was a kid that daddies know everything. And of course when you’re a kid, you don’t know much. You don’t have an education. So you’re going to believe that your father knows everything.
Bruce Chamoff [00:07:27]:
And then as I started growing up and learning computer programming, I realized my father doesn’t know how to program. So now at this point, daddies don’t know everything. And now my daughter is teaching me things that I never knew. So it’s great. Learn from your kids.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:07:42]:
You definitely can learn from your kids. I find that with my own daughters that I learn things from them, you know, sometimes things that I don’t wanna know, but but you definitely are still learning things and growing with them. And and that’s important because, you know, the the minute that you turn that off or the minute you’re not willing to learn from others and from your daughters specifically, that’s gonna close off the relationship. And so it’s really important to be able to keep that relationship open in that regard. I know you’re a busy guy, and you’ve got a lot of things going on. You’re an entrepreneur. You you have this network that you’re doing as well. You’re doing a lot of different things, and you’ve been doing this for quite a few years.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:08:21]:
So as you look at the life that you’ve had and all the different things that you have done, talk to me about balance and what you had to do, balance the things that you were doing outside of the house and what you were trying to be inside the house, to be that dad that you wanted to be.
Bruce Chamoff [00:08:40]:
I’ll be honest with you. I’m not the best at balancing, and I’m still learning that as I go through my life. Work life balance, I understand is absolutely important in anybody’s life. So especially people who work. And I’ll be the first to admit that I’m a workaholic. And at times when my daughter was growing up, there were times that I worked so hard that I did neglect her and I was always there for her. I mean, anytime she needed me, I I jumped and stopped what I was doing. But I always worked so hard, and there were times when I said to myself, I just have to stop what I’m doing right now and just be a dad and not be an entrepreneur and not be a workaholic.
Bruce Chamoff [00:09:20]:
And it’s it’s hard because you’re a workaholic for a reason, you know, it’s just like an alcoholic, you cannot stop drinking alcohol that easily and workaholic is the same thing. So I learned to just cut myself off at a certain time. You know, when 5 o’clock came, I said, that’s it. I’m done working. I know I have a lot of things to do. Still, I have a lot of unfinished projects that I wanna keep on working on. And it’s not just about the work life balance. It’s also for your own health and your own stress level.
Bruce Chamoff [00:09:49]:
If you’re a workaholic and you find it hard to stop being that way, my solution is to force yourself to just stop working at a certain time of the day. If you have to set an alarm, which is what I had to do, the alarm goes off and that’s it. You stop working and you spend time with your family and that’s it. So that’s what I’ve been doing. And, you know, I’m in I’m now in my fifties. So the one thing that’s actually in my advantage, like, if if you’re in your if you’re in the older generation, your circadian rhythm, which is your sleep cycle, shifts to an earlier time of the day, which makes it easy to stop working later on that day. So I used to go from to start working at like 8 o’clock in the morning to now I start working at 4:30 in the morning. And that’s easy for me to do, to get up that early.
Bruce Chamoff [00:10:34]:
But with that said, I also cannot work past 5 o’clock at night. So at that point, if a dad is in that particular age range, I would say probably 40 years in age of up and up, It’s easy to get up earlier, to start working and stop working and then spend time with your family. So to me, I think that younger dads will have a hard time with the work life balance than older dads. That’s my experience.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:11:00]:
Now I know that I mentioned at the beginning that you’re a podcaster. You run this network called The World Podcast Network. You’ve been podcasting for quite some time, and I am a podcaster. I’m a podcasting fan. And I know what drew me in to this genre. But you’ve been doing this for longer than I have. So talk to me about what drew you into podcasting from an early point and how that impacted you as an ad.
Bruce Chamoff [00:11:28]:
When I was in college, I wanted to join the college radio station, and that was Kean University in Union, New Jersey, which at the time was called Kean College. And I graduated in 1988. I love heavy metal. I still do. And my daughter and I have seen a lot of hard rock and heavy metal concerts, which I’m so happy that she was into that music for a long time. And it also made us a little closer having the music connection together. And I wanted to play my favorite heavy metal music, but I couldn’t get on to the radio station because it was booked. All the DJs the radio station was just full of DJs and there was no there were no openings.
Bruce Chamoff [00:12:07]:
So life went on. I graduated college. I’ve got a I got a degree in marketing, and I got a couple of jobs. 2005 when everybody was buying the iPad, like, almost everybody had an iPad, and I realized podcasting was out there. I ignored it. And then I was in a bookstore and saw from Todd Cochran of the Blueberry Network, the book for introduction to podcasting. Like, oh, this is a real thing because there’s a book here. I didn’t think twice.
Bruce Chamoff [00:12:35]:
I just didn’t even look at it, and I just took it off the shelf. It was a shiny silver cover with green lettering. You can’t miss that among other books. The artwork on the front cover was just there to grab your attention and it did. And I read that book literally within a week. And I’m like, I’m starting my podcast. And I did. And that’s when I started my first podcast called the Fresh Music Series which is I finally got to be the DJ to play my music.
Bruce Chamoff [00:13:01]:
Now I was on Long Island at the time and I went on to Craigslist and put in that I had a podcast. And And because I’m also a musician, I’m a songwriter, and I’m still putting music out. If anybody wants to check my music out on Spotify, it’s just look up Bruce Chamble. So I wanted to promote my own music, but I’m like, I’m not gonna be selfish about this. Maybe I could get other podcasters to come on to my podcast. And I put that Craigslist ad out, and literally, I had about 10 bands saying, hey. Play my music. Play my music.
Bruce Chamoff [00:13:30]:
Play my music. Okay. But you have to first email me that I have your permission that you’re not gonna sue me in copyright infringement. And they said, yeah, you have my permission. I have it in writing. I went ahead and put people’s music on my podcast and not once did I get sued for that. So I’m happy about that. And then I realized that there is something called the pod safe music directory started by Adam Curry of MTV and I started downloading all that music.
Bruce Chamoff [00:13:53]:
But my main goal is to promote my own music and other local bands. And that’s what I did. Being a web developer and a marketing visionary, I envisioned more than one podcast. And I figured maybe I should build a website. It wasn’t called The Podcast Network yet, where I have multiple podcasts. I know there are other podcasters out there. So I built a website called the Long Island Podcast Network. And I called it a podcast network because I wanted to be like a radio network, a TV network, a network of podcasts.
Bruce Chamoff [00:14:27]:
There was no podcast network out there yet, So I coined the term. And from there, 100 of podcast networks have sprung up all over the world now. But I went back on Craigslist and put an ad out there to the community and said, if you have a podcast, sign up. Here’s the link. And I got 20 podcasts literally within 2 2 months. And then I had to expand the network. I got health, sports, technology, business. I mean, everybody was doing all types of podcasts.
Bruce Chamoff [00:14:55]:
And then I got called by Newsday which is the biggest newspaper out there on Long Island. I’m like, do you wanna do an article on my network? I’m like, this is like huge. And they came to my house. They did a whole a whole photo shoot on me. I started the podcast network February of 2006, so exactly 18 years now. And then 11 months later in November, it came out. And I was, like, blown away. It was a it was a page and a half, and it’s a huge network.
Bruce Chamoff [00:15:18]:
There was a band called The Mondays that was founded by a friend of mine or fronted by a friend of mine named Ken Carmen. He joined the network and they’re a pretty big alternative band. They’re really talented rock band. And I played saxophone with them a few times and that’s it. Like, he he told other people, people joined. So it’s great. Now to answer your other question, how did this affect me as a dad and my relationship with my daughter? I just decided to get my daughter involved. So my daughter was how old was she? She was 4 or actually yeah.
Bruce Chamoff [00:15:48]:
No. She was 3 at the time. And I’m like, you know what? Work life balance. If I’m gonna do this, I wanna get my daughter involved and I think that’s another thing that my advice to dads are whatever you’re doing, if you’re a workaholic like me, find a way to incorporate your daughter into your work and make it fun because that’s work life balance. Right? You don’t it doesn’t have to be just you. And here’s a good example. When I was 8 years old, my father, he was a CPA. And when I was 8 years old, he was working very hard during tax season.
Bruce Chamoff [00:16:19]:
IRS needs everybody’s taxes filed by April 15th. So he would get bombarded. He would be working overnight and overnight and overnight and he decided to incorporate me into his business. So he had me doing filing at 8 years old. And that’s a good example. It doesn’t matter what you’re in. I mean, if you’re if you’re a busy lawyer, then somehow you must have law firm, law forms, right, people fill out. Have your daughter come.
Bruce Chamoff [00:16:44]:
Let her do some filing. Teach her early how to be an entrepreneur and find a way. And I got my daughter involved and it was just amazing. My daughter also and I, we we did have a podcast called the daddy and daughter podcast. It was only, like, 4 episodes, and it just it it didn’t work after a while, but it’s still out there on YouTube. So, no, that’s what you gotta do.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:17:02]:
It is what you have to do. And you have to find that not only for yourself, that niche for yourself. I mean, I run about 5 different podcast myself. I’m either hosting or producing, and each is just a little bit different. And it goes to that multi passionate aspect. I hear people talk about people being multi passionate and having those different things that are you’re you’re so passionate about. And and I guess for me, you you know, bringing your daughter in and having her involved right now, how is she involved with your podcasting network? And how is that framing what she wants to do with her life?
Bruce Chamoff [00:17:36]:
My daughter is the maintenance manager of the World Podcast Network. We have grown so fast. We have over a 1000 podcasts that now we need to do maintenance every single day. And my daughter does the maintenance. She looks at the analytics because we give podcasters analytics. You can see your downloads and everything else. I mean, just like Buzzsprout and Anchor and Podbean, they have their analytics. We have analytics as well, and so does Spotify.
Bruce Chamoff [00:18:05]:
So we keep data, like, we collect the data. And my daughter will look at the analytics, make sure that they’re up to date, they’re working well. Sometimes the podcasters, they don’t like their analytics. So they say, well, why is this graphic high? Why is it low? And my daughter looks at that and she analyzes it, but she does other things too. Like, she’ll she’ll do some data entry for the podcast network. She’ll run reports. She’ll generate reports. And she has a whole admin screen and a collection of reports that she actually maintains.
Bruce Chamoff [00:18:35]:
And she does a really good job with it. So I’m really very proud and to have her working for me. And the other thing too is when I work for my dad, and he passed away in 2005, so maybe he rest in peace. I feel like I’m giving back to my father by having my daughter work for me. So it’s coming around full circle, and I love that aspect of it.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:18:54]:
Now have a go going from where you were to where you are today, where do you go from here?
Bruce Chamoff [00:19:00]:
That’s an interesting loaded question. I would have to say that we just keep on defining our mission and making our mission better and trying to help people. I mean, my mission is to help podcasters succeed in a lot of ways, growth, monetization, and just getting their message out, like, whatever the theme of their podcast is. And every podcast has a theme. The question is, are you reaching the right people? Are you reaching your target market? I mean, I’m a marketing guy, like I said, so I think in terms of target market and demographics and things like that. So, yeah, I think about how do I make The World Podcast Network better for the community? And how do I make The World Podcast Network help podcasters succeed? And I just sit down and plan out that goal and I build it. And then my team test it and we go back and forth with feedback and it’s a cool thing, you know. That’s why I keep going.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:19:51]:
No. I love what you’re doing and bringing podcasts together and being able to bring people together. Now podcasters are storytellers. And podcasts, to be honest, I mean, for anyone, are stories. And individuals that run podcasts love to tell stories or bring those stories out. As a father, you’re a storyteller as well. And many times, fathers speak over the years, are oral tell storytellers in trying to help their daughters, help their kids in many different ways. How have you found that being a podcaster has influenced you as a storyteller, but also as a father in being able to better lead your own daughter in the ways of the world?
Bruce Chamoff [00:20:37]:
Interesting question. I mean, I’m a public speaker. I have absolutely no problems telling anybody anything in public. And to me, the more people I speak in front of, the better. And most people are the opposite. Right? Nobody likes most people don’t like public speaking, but I love it. And my daughter has actually traveled with me in a few to a few places when I’ve spoken at WordPress conferences or WordCamps. She’s traveled with me to Cincinnati and I don’t don’t I think she’s I forgot where else she traveled me to, but she saw me and she said that she’s not really a public speaker.
Bruce Chamoff [00:21:12]:
I don’t think that she would get in front of people and speak at this moment in time. Maybe she’ll change on that. But I really just love showing my daughter that I have no problem getting in front of a group of people and speaking. It’s given me confidence. And she did tell me in Cincinnati that she was impressed with how I can just control an audience. I thought that was awesome.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:21:30]:
Well, I really appreciate you sharing that. I think it’s important and it’s important to be able to see where you’ve been and where you are today and where you’re going in the future. And that helps your own kids to be able to set a path for themselves. Now we all always finish our interviews with what I like to call our fatherhood 5, where I ask you 5 more questions to delve deeper into you as a dad. Are you ready? Very cool. Let’s do it. In one word, what is fatherhood?
Bruce Chamoff [00:21:52]:
I’ll just call it joy.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:21:53]:
When was the time that you finally felt like you succeeded at being a father to a daughter?
Bruce Chamoff [00:21:58]:
Around 2006 when I started coaching her soccer team.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:02]:
And what did you find in that that made you really feel that way?
Bruce Chamoff [00:22:05]:
Just the fact that my daughter and I connected in a particular activity that we could do together. I coached and she played. It was nice connection between the 2 of us. And also just the fact that, like I said before, we went to a lot of rock concerts together. I think my daughter and I have been to if I had to count, we’ve been to 6 concerts together, I think. And and that includes some pretty classic rock bands, like, we’ve been to the kids concert together too.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:26]:
Now the question is is did you dress up like the band when you were there with the paint face paint and everything?
Bruce Chamoff [00:22:32]:
No. Not at all. But I did before like, I think in 1995, I did open up for Furley’s Comet. So that was exciting. That was in New Jersey.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:40]:
That’s awesome. Now if I was to talk to your daughter, how would she describe you as a dad?
Bruce Chamoff [00:22:45]:
Hopefully, my daughter would describe me as a very caring dad and a very hardworking dad to make us successful and giving.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:53]:
Now, who inspires you to be a better dad?
Bruce Chamoff [00:22:55]:
My dad. That was an easy question.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:22:57]:
Now you’ve given a number of piece of advice, a number of number of things that you’ve learned along the way that you’ve shared today. As we finish up, what’s one piece of advice you’d wanna give to every dad?
Bruce Chamoff [00:23:07]:
As I mentioned, for the younger dads with younger kids, don’t worry if they become teenagers and they stop talking to you. Just learn to accept it. Don’t stress over it and know that that will go away when you become a little older and never stop loving them. No matter what they tell you, no matter how disobedient they are, just give them your heart and be patient with them and everything else will just fall into place.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:23:29]:
Well, Bruce, I wanna say thank you. Thank you for being here. Now if people if people wanna find out more about you, your podcast network, etcetera, where should they go?
Bruce Chamoff [00:23:38]:
You can look up Bruce Chamoff on all the social media. LinkedIn, mostly. I’m on Facebook just like everybody else or a lot of people. And I’m just starting to get on the TikTok, but you can always go on to the world podcast network at well, podcast dot network and send me a contact form message.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:23:55]:
Well, again, Bruce, thank you. Thank you for being here. Thank you for sharing your own journey as a father, and I wish you all the best.
Bruce Chamoff [00:24:00]:
Thanks for having me, Chris. It was a lot of fun being on your podcast, so thank you so much. It’s my pleasure too.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:24:06]:
If you’ve enjoyed today’s episode of the Dads with Daughters podcast, we invite you to check out the Fatherhood Insider. The fatherhood insider is the essential resource for any dad that wants to be the best dad that he can be. We know that no child comes with an instruction manual and most dads are figuring it out as they go along, and the fatherhood insider is full of resources and information that will up your game on fatherhood. Through our extensive course library, interactive forum, step by step roadmaps, and more, you will engage and learn with experts, but more importantly, dads like you. So check it out at fathering together.org. If you are a father of a daughter and have not yet joined the with daughters Facebook community, there’s a link in the notes today. Dads with daughters is a program of fathering together. We look forward to having you back for another great guest next week, all geared to helping you raise strong and powered daughters and be the best dad that you can be.
Dr. Christopher Lewis [00:25:04]:
We’re all in the same boat, And it’s full of tiny screaming passengers. We spend the time. We give the lessons. We make the meals. We buy them presents and and bring your a game. Because those kids are growing fast. The time goes by just like a dynamite blast. Calling astronauts and firemen, carpenters, and musclemen. Get out and be the world. Choose them. Be the best dad you can be.
